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roundspiteci3
19mo ago
Seeking Advice

I wanna know if I did the right thing.

So this man I have been talking to for a year from a distant place. He is very nice and talks to me everyday and video calls with me. We have a mutual understanding that we will only be in a relationship after we meet in person and it’s already scheduled and he already bought a ticket. We have shared a lot of things to each other and even send cards to each other’s address. It feels like a romantic relationship already although he refuses to put a label yet. But recently, he told me that he is gonna spend an entire weekend with a friend who is a girl whom she met at the same platform that we did. And he really did even though I acted cold. And he didn’t noticed I was upset and he even sounded very excited. He said that she is not her type and he don’t like her after some time of talking because she was annoying. He ensured me that it’s only friendly. But it bothers me a lot because it just don’t feel right and that a man and a woman spending a weekend together. Who is he fooling? So I decided to end it. But now it gives me second thought wether O was just overacting and they are really just friends and he just want to show her his place?

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Anonymous19mo ago

Hmmmm that’s a tough one. I guess if we extend out the analogy that this online platform is like dating, (which it might not be, but he’s talking to women on it) then I guess in my mind it would be just as OK for him to date around the same as you or someone else would online / offline before deciding that they’re in an exclusive relationship with someone. I’d definitely feel mad / sad though if I was talking to someone for a year and this happened. That way would cross my line of emotional cheating if we’d been taking for a year. But on the other hand if we hadn’t agreed to be exclusive I guess I knew that risk going into it. Hmmm 🤔

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