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Break up or well idk
Hey there so uhhh I broke up with him because of reasons like he got jealous I had a guy friend he thought something was between us like if we were together and one day a guy pretended to be a girl in text and told him “I like you” and I started crying and for more reasons and well I got in contact with him again but now I regret it and I’m sad again I wanna go back with him but he has a girl best friend so we were playing Roblox and well he was playing w her and I said is that a boy? He was like “what if it is? Will you be happy?” I said yes but he told me it was a girl and well I got jealous and now I feel there both dating and he’s ignoring my texts even tho I see him play Roblox and well I want him back but I feel there together and there’s teasing why yes and no I wanna get back with him but yeah…(help you’re girl out pls) oh and sorry I forgot sth so I used to do sth on his neck so sorry and well his dad dosent like me now bc I have a guy friend and well bc of that and well his mom did not like me now and one day we went to eat and his mom left us alone and well I cried bc I was planing to break up but I don’t wanna bc he was like my whole world I said “why do you like me? I’m so ugly fat and not pretty” why not get someone else that is like that and more things and well that day I don’t want remember but it was on a Sunday we broke up that day
Unexpected text from ex
My ex of 7 years blindsided me into a break up almost 8 months and last we spoke was 6 months ago. The relationship wasn’t bad but we were both going through career growth and had to move to different places 2 months before the break up. Which we did at one point in the past and we made it work. We didn’t have crazy fights and he never told me anything was bothering him until he broke up with me citing the workload in our life and the distance which is fair. The problem is that after all that while I was still trying to make sense to things he blocked me then and like 3 months after unfollowed me on instagram. We used WhatsApp occasionally while we were together. I realized when I was going over my documents in my computer that he had some documents with my information from one time I had to borrowed his laptop to submit some things that had a deadline for applications I was partaking in at that time. I message him on WhatsApp since i wasn’t sure if I was still blocked and wanted to see if the message got delivered. It was a straight forward text. Just asking him to delete them and said thanks. I made sure the text had no open questions because I did not want to give the idea that I wanted to talk to him or that I was trying to connect with him. Because honestly I didn’t want to reconnect in any way. He didn’t replied that message for like 2-3 weeks which was expected. But then he randomly message a “how are you”. Didn’t even mentioned the documents. I haven’t replied and I don’t plan to. I am just surprised because it was unexpected. I assume things are not going as well as he expec.
Day 1
I dated someone for 4 years. I was deeply in love and invested. They asked to go on a break june 21st however i already know they dont want to be with me. I have broken no contact many times and regret it every time. Im hoping this app helps. I need help…
Introvert with few friends - loneliness sucks
I think part of my pain is that I don’t have a circle of friends or even very supportive family. It’s basically just me and my kids against the world. I’m a bit estranged from my parents and I have little contact with my siblings who all live far. I had friends before but they all moved away, went on their own journeys and it’s honestly lonely. Making friends in your 40s is a bit challenging imo due to work and kids (plus I’m in school 🙃) so it’s limited the amount of free time I have. Just wanted to throw that out there and see if anyone can relate!
Venting
I had been with this guys for 7 years. We were practically living together at one point and had a healthy relationship. We had to move to a different city for our professional growth for some time, there was no other way to do so while being in the same city. The 1st month it was good we talked almost every day unless something came up and texted all the time. The 2nd month both our schedules were packed and we had different availability plus there was a time zone difference. We still try staying in contact but it was hard. I was concern about this and though we could talk about it when we saw each other (we were supposed to meet soon). However, right as I was getting ready for a big event in my career he broke up with me over text. we spoke on the phone later and he was crying and saying it will be the best for us in the long run. We ended up meeting in person and talking about but I had to insist for this to happen. There were some things I had to say and I wanted that to be in person. He then said we should meet again after a month when we were both going to be in the same city due to personal reasons. After this meeting he texted me at one point during the holidays to said he missed me and loved me. When the time for the second meeting came up there was an issue with his job and he couldn’t go there but he didn’t tell me about it until I asked. He said he really believed we should just move on. He made comments that made it seem like he was also having a hard time but I told him at this point I also didn’t feel like I could be with him considering his treatment in the last month. He refused to talk about how he felt and just kept saying it was best for both of us and that he wouldn’t be able to give me the things I want and deserve because of how demanding his job is. (Just to give context he has a very sheltered life. Didn’t struggle a lot and never had to handle more than 2-3 responds at the same time.) He said to stay in contact but blocked me in a matter of second after having regular communication with me for weeks. I feel like I was blindsided and like he didn’t respect me enough to act more mature about the whole situation. I honestly didn’t even have time to react. Needless to say it affected my professional and daily life as I was under so much stress I started having anxiety attacks and insomnia. I am in a better place and things are getting better but I still feel stuck. He recently unfollowed me on instagram, like 4-5 months after the break up. We had not been in contact for more than 3 months at that point and neither of us uses instagram to post things. Mostly use it to share memes and such. Which just reopened a lot of wound for me that I was working hard to heal from. This is just me venting because I honestly feel like my family and friends are tired of this whole topic and I just need to put it somewhere to let it go and stop overthinking about it.
Too late
I’m not about to use this app anymore, as after 94 days he is begging me for second chance. I went through hell during those 3 months and after emotional and physical pain and many people leaving my side I was lucky enough to still have those who stayed. Sometimes we desperately want someone to be back in our life, because we are suffering, thinking we’re suffocating without them, only time shows whom that place belongs to. But as it’s too late now when seeing things in true colours
Please Update App Message
Just in case anyone else is wondering about the “update app” message. I just got an email back from the support team and they’re saying it is a bug and a new version of the app is being reviewed by Apple right now so hopefully it will be fixed soon. Not ideal given I’m going through cheating trauma but in case anyone else is wondering what’s up there it is 🤷♂️
Help?
I keep crying at night and I don’t know how to let go of these thoughts
advice pls
He broke up with me about 3 months ago because he lost feelings after a year of being together. For the first month he wrote to me every now and then and wanted us to try again. At the same time, he was already getting to know his new current girlfriend. I don't understand why he did that when he cried until recently and said that he would like this relationship further than me, but he can't love me any longer despite the fact that I'm perfect. Now I see them walking together, he puts her on Instagram all the time (he never added me only when I asked him) and I can't do it because he literally destroyed me with his behavior. How could he replace me so quickly? He said during the breakup that I would always be the most important to him no matter what happens and then he didn't even make me birthday wishes, so soon after I blocked him to go further and for a while it helped me and now it's tragic again. They started talking to each other literally 8 days after our breakup. I'm sorry if what I wrote is chaotic, but I have a lot of emotions now and I don't know what to do, I can't go any further.
Newly single
I (37f) dated my partner(42m) for 2 years, we had a great relationship. Moved in together 8 months ago. We had discussed marriage is vague terms but no timeline. It’s a must for me but I knew he was reluctant about it from the beginning. I was still hopeful we would get there, love and all that ya know. He finally admitted last week that he never intends to get married. It’s a hard line for me so I packed my things and moved back to my own house a couple days later. I still love him deeply but can’t stay with a man long term who won’t protect me with the security of his last name. We both still want to date but I think it’s a horrible idea. Feeling really lost, not sure what to do now. Definitely not in a mindset to even consider looking for that husband who is so important that I blew my whole relationship up to find.
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