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Trying to leave narcissistic boyfriend
Hey so I’ve been in this relationship for a year and 4 months. He’s isolated me from my friends and is trying to isolate me from my family now. He hits me and shoves me but says that it’s because I’m emotional and that it’s ’good for a woman and they secretly like it’. He yells at me for random things and I can never tell when he will snap. He’s an alcoholic and unemployed and I keep trying to tell him to get off the alcohol but he says it’s not that bad (he drinks 2L of whiskey and will stay up from 6pm to 11pm the next day every fortnight). He doesn’t let me go out with friends because apparently it’s not me being loyal but he can go to bars alone and doesn’t see the problem. Everything’s my fault because I’m a woman and thus forth emotional. He says he’s smarter than everyone and he’s in the 1% but does nothing all day but game and read philosophy which in his mind backs up his thoughts that he (a white male) is the best thing to exist and women and any other race is inferior. I’m trying to get out but he scares me so much. He’s cut off every friend I have and has made me feel so replaceable, ugly, emotional, annoying and dumb. What do I do?
Seeking advice
I am so attached that I can’t leave him and he taking me for granted He said if I want to leave he is not going to stop me . He said he want to explore new relationship I want to leave him so bad but I don’t know I am so sensitive that I start to cry
Narcissist Abuse - Seeking Advice
Broke up with him after being together for 1 year - mentally and physically abused while being with him. Been in a car accident with him where I was hurt and he got nothing and the next day instead of accompanying me to the hospital, he was trying to contact his ex. Was constantly compared to his ex while being with him, was never good enough and believe me when I say he is a pro manipulator. After 1 month of break up and no contact, I still think about him every single day and it is very hard. How do you guys cope?
Cheated after 2 1/2 years
I left my boyfriend this morning after 2 1/2 years of a what I thought was a happy healthy relationship. I’m really struggling to understand the stuff I saw, I saw things on his phone after he wrestled (& yes I mean WRESTLED) me to not look at his phone (btw I never have looked at his phone) but there was LOADS of pictures of girls he knew, a girl from my home town, a few random girls that he admitted he pleasured himself to. I struggle with this due to the feeling that there was nothing wrong with the sexual side of our relationship, maybe sometimes too much. I’m so confused with the person I started to go out with as he’s lied and betrayed my trust and I’m struggling to move on. I’ve also been a credit to him, I’ve done everything and more for this boy, he was always affectionate to me in public and openly l, he spoke to me about how he’d never do anything like this, I think he has an addiction, if he gets help am I foolish to consider getting back with him?
Emptiness
I just broke up yesterday with my boyfriend of 1 year and 7 months. I always had an inside feeling that in the long run I need to be with someone with more ambition and that we have more things in common. I knew that if I would let the relationship go on longer it would just hurt me and him even more and we really did love each other so much even though I know that inside that I need more out of my partner. I feel so empty inside and broken and so much pain. Don’t know what to do.
Getting back
Is there anyone here that got back with their ex in a healtier relationship? And how much time did it take?
I miss you
We broke up ? I don’t even know. A few days ago I was feeling detached from my boyfriend. We are long distance at the moment and I was missing him. He wasn’t calling me anymore, even though we text all day what I missed most was seeing his face. My previous experience in relationships haven’t been that nice so it gets me in my head and I start to over imagine and over think. So somehow I convince myself that he doesn’t want me anymore and that he doesn’t love me anymore and rather be with someone else, so I told him I want to break up cause of that. Even though we sorted the issue and my momentary sadness was subdued. Ever since that day he hasn’t contacted me (in fairness I haven’t contacted him either) it’s just been making me feel so isolated in this relationship so I decided that I am gonna not talk to him anymore and move on. I deleted all our photos, conversations, his number and even my Instagram account. I don’t know what to do or feel anymore
I just want him to reach out
We broke up and are talking until a month I miss him so much but I told him I'm not chasing him anymore therefore I'm not reaching out but I wish he would. I wish he would beg for me back and not care anyone would think. I miss him and I miss us and I fear the longer he waits the more I will be too scared to take him back because I won't want to be hurt again. HELP
I cant take this anymore but I keep on coming back
Our relationship is on and off. today he called me crazy saying that I created scenarios in my head that makes us fight. I only get mad because of how he treat me, for example he will do something that he knows I hate will apologize for it once I get mad and then he’ll do it again I am so tired and sick of this relationship but I cant stop coming back to him please help me
Manifesting he’ll miss me
Hey guys, how much time did it take for your ex that broke up with you to ready out and try again?
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