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huskypassionaco6
18mo ago
Seeking Advice

Trying to leave narcissistic boyfriend

Hey so I’ve been in this relationship for a year and 4 months. He’s isolated me from my friends and is trying to isolate me from my family now. He hits me and shoves me but says that it’s because I’m emotional and that it’s ’good for a woman and they secretly like it’. He yells at me for random things and I can never tell when he will snap. He’s an alcoholic and unemployed and I keep trying to tell him to get off the alcohol but he says it’s not that bad (he drinks 2L of whiskey and will stay up from 6pm to 11pm the next day every fortnight). He doesn’t let me go out with friends because apparently it’s not me being loyal but he can go to bars alone and doesn’t see the problem. Everything’s my fault because I’m a woman and thus forth emotional. He says he’s smarter than everyone and he’s in the 1% but does nothing all day but game and read philosophy which in his mind backs up his thoughts that he (a white male) is the best thing to exist and women and any other race is inferior. I’m trying to get out but he scares me so much. He’s cut off every friend I have and has made me feel so replaceable, ugly, emotional, annoying and dumb. What do I do?

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sandyfix85qmphq18mo ago

You need an exit plan, in a safe place he can't find. You need to leave and not tell him, as that's the most dangerous time. You are most likely trauma bonded to him which is probably why you're struggling so bad to leave or see things clearly. But you've gotta get out. NO one is worth your physical or emotional health. You can't get him to stop from drinking or taking accountability. There are organizations who can help people get out of abusive situations like this. You may need the help of others to escape.

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crookedairyuuj18mo ago

You are better than this call up a loved one and tell them your plan and why so you have them in your corner remember you are better than this and you know it! That's why you are on this app! You have to see the alternatives. Stay with him? Get married to him? Have kids with him? Absolutely not. You do not want to let your future kids to ever feel how you are feeling. Do it for you so that way one day when you have kids you can teach them not to stay in something bad. You got this!

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KHM101718mo ago

Leave before it completely consumes you. Luckily he is your boyfriend and not husband. It doesn’t get better… it will for a while… then you will be back in the same cycle.

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Aminaakkhan18mo ago

I’m glad you reached out on a platform. I hope the best for you, you don’t deserve to be in such a place

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