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He cheated.
3 years. And he cheated on me with a 19 year old. I took all of my belongings yesterday. I took everything- because he doesn't get to have the things I gave him out of kindness after hurting me this way. She knew he was in a committed relationship and she still took him. It hurts. It hurts like hell. He's been with her for 3 weeks and I just found out yesterday so I took my stuff and we ended things. He couldn't even say it to my face, he text me. He's a coward. He couldn't face his decision. I will hurt for so long and he's running around in the honeymoon phase. Karma will get them. Karma will knock them on their asses and he will realize he lost someone so good.
Been hard since wife left
My wife and I are currently separated and it’s been so hard. Trying to not beat myself up about it but it’s a hard pill to swallow. I feel unworthy and lonely. I know I have to let go and give god the keys to my life. God please order my steps because I’m losing faith.
I don’t know how to do this…
I have been in a unhealthy relationship since 2017. We have been on and off but the entirety of these years has been dedicated and focused on him and us. Yesterday was different than all the other times and there is a deep knowing it is over but I do not know how to let go, even though it brought so much pain. I tried for repair or gentle closure yet with accountability but was met with anger, frustration and gaslighting, which gets in my head and I carry the weight with me not knowing how to be kind to myself. Even in the breaking up it reflects how different we process. I don’t know how to do this… this letting go and I don’t know how to sit with the shame and feeling hated.
Hopeless
This is the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through. Something about the dynamic between me and him has made this the hardest relationship to let go of. I truly don’t know how to accept it. But it’s clear it will never work… he is never coming back and I have no control over it. You can’t make someone love you. I’m day 3 no contact now, after a humiliating begging session…. I am also 2 1/2 months post break up and still feel as completely crushed as day 1… this is insane.
So done
He left me after i had just delivered our new daughter…….. And started dating a new chick 2 days later
Almost one year
we almost made it to one year. i spent so much time, literally over a days worth of hours recording me reading a book for them, for our anniversary gift. i thought things would change but they didn’t. they’re a workaholic and it’s just not gonna stop. it’s unfortunate because i still love care and cherish them. i miss them so fucking much, yet we’ve had barely no contact for four months. idk why it’s taking this long to hit me, but here i am ig. im sorry if u see this, but i think you’re too busy to have time to process this or come to something like this anyway. It my first relationship like this and it hurts so bad and i feel numb. i hate it.
I need help
About a month ago, I got out of a mess relationship where I never really got appreciated. Then about a week ago, I met this girl that blew my mind and won over my heart in an instant. We talked really good for this week and we had common morals and beliefs, and it seemed that she was perfect for me. But today her brother told her that I was still talking to my ex, which wasn’t true. And she has a past relationship which the guy was still talking to his ex. I’m not sure if that is what is going on or if she just didn’t want to be with me, or even if her brother didn’t want to accept me. This literally happened to me an hour ago and I can’t stop overthinking or crying. I know it was only a week of talking but I was so attached to this girl that it’s killing me. She told me that she wanted to be alone and she feels iffy about our relationship, I need a girl to give me some advice about this situation because I don’t want to give up on this yet. I really want to call her and text her but idk if she just wants to get over me or something else. Please help me
Idk
The break up itself at the time was painful but bare-able seeing the cause was the long distance, although memories would kick in from time to time I was fine. What hurt me was that this summer someone I trusted that I called my “friend” went behind my back and is now dating him. Them dating isn’t the hurtful part, the hurtful part is that when everything went down I was humiliated, I don’t think I deserve it, I mean what could I have possibly done to deserve it ? Everyone would ask me about my relationship with him, I wouldn’t talk of it cause it wasn’t anyone’s business plus for respect of our relationship I would only talk good about him and our relationship. Everything went to shit when I found out not only did he talk shit about me but the person I considered my friend didn’t consider me to the point she told everyone we aren’t even friends. I just wish that she could’ve told me sooner and I would’ve just accepted it and that he didn’t go around making me look like a monster and acting like a literal angel when we broke up. Now I have to deal with not only pain but shame.
Idk
Never done anything like this before usually I’ll drink a lot or make other mistakes that just prolongs the pain. I’m told to keep my mind busy and don’t contact and everything will be ok. Most of the time it feels impossible. I’ll humiliate myself by I guess begging. Losing this girl feels like losing myself.
What do i do
He broke up with me bc his mom didnt like me bc she cought us sneaking out tg and she wanted us to break up and he did after a week or two of not listening to her and he told me after highschools over he would come back and he would be waiting for me and i said ok and he told me he loved me. Two days later i get a notification (im logged into his insta) and hes texting this girl saying hey ma you mad pretty and I confronted him but he blocked me and took me off his account and everyibe but his bsf blocked me so i texted his bsf and my ex went on his bsfs phone and started saying “you dont control me” when all i was doing is asking whats going on which is crazy because either waited for him and i told him id wait for him however long it takes but he coupdnt even wait more then 2 days he also doesnt have his phone so he uses his friends phone so i send him tiktoks and other stuff on snapchat but what should i do?
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