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3 years over in 3 days
My bf of 3 years whom I thought I had a great and solid relationship with just broke up with me. This was the best relationship I’ve ever been in. I truly thought he was the one. He’s just been very unsure about the future for a while and came to the realization that he didn’t know if he could ever really commit to me. So he decided to end it. And it all makes sense etc, I just really never imagined that would ever happen. I think we both just brushed it off to his anxiety and thought it would get better. It’s also cliche but I’ve never been loved like that, and I see why we’re here and that it’s for the best but that’s still a tough one to swallow. Anyone been though something similar?
Seeking Advice…
I just recently started dating this guy after getting out of a two year relationship. At the beginning everything was great then he became controlling not letting me have access to my phone, money our even my clothes. If I say something to upset him he’ll leave me stranded with no phone.. Id our money. The other day he got so mad at me n punch me the head four times… I was using his phone to check my emails and he punch me in the chest. He apologized and promise not to do it again. I hate having to walk on eggshells
Just got my heart broken for the first time
I’ve been in many relationships before but most being because people liked me and I didn’t say no but that’s not important. My SO just broke up with me for no reason. She just randomly tossed me to the side and I didn’t even find out from them! She sent me a video of her best friend laughing that she’s ditching me. This hurt and still does. I’m beginning to question if love can ever happen to me again. I feel stupid for giving someone my heat just for them to stop on it.
7 years..
me and my fiancé of 7 years broke up last night..I’m devastated. I’ve been crying all day, and trying to figure out what I could do to save our relationship. I’ve spoken with her and she’s told me she loves me but isn’t in love with me anymore. She resents me for things I couldn’t control (I have adhd and can’t focus well, I’ve bounced between jobs a lot due to bad bosses or just not liking it so that was my fault, among other things) and she also said she’s grown (we met when she was 18, and I was 21) and isn’t emotionally connected to me anymore. She wants to heal her own mental distress and give her younger self the love she deserved before she met me, and I’m at a loss. I don’t know what to do. My best friend want me to move across the country to live with him so I have some kind of support cuz where I currently live it’s just me and her, and she’s the only one I have. I wanted to marry this woman, I wanted to grow old with this woman, and I can no longer have a future with her. And frankly I just need some advice, I’ve never in my life felt pain like this…I’ve downloaded journal apps to keep track of what I’m feeling and thinking, and I’m seeing a therapist as well to help with things but I just don’t know what to do
still attached
hi, i've broken up with my ex about a week ago due to his agressive side when he drinks alcohol, and his disrespectiveness he gave me during the relationship. i keep thinking back and speaking to people about all the bad things he had done to me, but i still miss him and talking to him and living with him and everything, i can't seem to take my mind off even if he was terrible. Any advice on what you guys do to help not miss them? i don't see why i should be missing them because he didn't always treat me right and i hope he realises it but i don't want to give in due to the fact that i miss him
Ex moved on
Hello me and my friend Forrest started our relationship two years ago and I broke up with him in October that year because we didn’t feel the same way. I thought of him as more of a friend. Now he was moved on and found someone new and I feel he is spending less time with me and my friend. I understand but at the same time I am upset. Any advice?
A time and a place?
Is there ever a time when getting back together is a good idea?
when does it stop hurting
one day overnight he just completely changed, ghosted me for a month saying he was going through stuff. i was patient, didn’t pressure him and just checked in sometimes, i felt so lonely and cried all the time because of how much i missed him. after a while i saw he was hanging out with everyone in his life except me, i eventually broke and that’s when he told me he thinks he might be gay. it made zero sense to me, i could think he was bi but gay?… it changed everything that i had lived with him, was all of it fake? did he ever even care? or love me at all? all the intimate stuff felt so fake all of a sudden. i sent a last message ending things, telling him id leave him alone. and that i was sorry and i loved him and was grateful. im moving countries soon, to where he is so it hurt a lot more. he never responded, not a single thing to let me know that he was at least grateful to me or that he did love me in the slightest. after a month of ghosting i got one message saying that and then nothing. it’s been a week and it feels like im the only one hurting. i miss him so much. everyday i can’t stop crying and thinking about him.
ADHD
I was just broken up with someone I was dating for 2.5 months. It is a short amount of time but I am devastated. I was blind-sided. He said he had trouble forming a deep connection with me. The ironic thing is everyone I know thinks this is insane, since I have a deep sense of self, am empathetic and easy to connect with and have several stable deep connections in my life with family and friends. He has ADHD and would forget things we talked about, would be inconsistent with plans and always was seeking a dopamine rush. My therapist just told me people with ADHD struggle to form connections with romantic partners because their brain is constantly jumping from place to place. It’s definitely possible that he just lost interest in me but I am wondering if anyone else had dealt with this.
How to know when to let go - help!
Me and my ex have been on and off for months now, since last year. I know it’s right to let go, and go no contact. I have tried it a few times. He always messages me and then I fall into the trap of replying. He really hurt me and cheated on me in multiple ways. Micro cheating and actual cheating & at the time a lot of gaslighting. Now he is very guilty and messages me, sad messages and I end up replying. I know I need to let go, but I love him it’s hard and I feel trauma bonded. What could help?
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