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How could a guy tell me that he cares so deeply about me and that us ending is an unfortunate situation. We decided to go no contact yesterday as it wasn’t healthy for either of us. Saying goodbye and we wish eachother the best. One of my friends just told me he’s already on dating apps planning dates with people. Like did he even care at all and how did he already move on?

give up or keep trying

Ex destroying my stuff

I broke up with my ex a week ago and she posted on her friends story a video of her destroying the stuff I gave her and now she is demanding that I give her back her hoodies, but I don’t want to because she destroyed my stuff, if I was to give them back I would have my cat piss on them or pour acrylic paint on them to ruin them, and now idk what to do

Please give me advice🙏

I met this guy about 9-10 months ago threw my ex but didn’t talk until the 18th of march and started developing a really strong connection and realizing how much we liked each other we would hang out and talk everyday sometimes even FaceTime but recently about a week ago we went to a party and I had a bit too much to drink and as expected got drunk and started throwing up in front of him my parents picked me up and the next day I got grounded for drinking we would still talk but it was like everything changed he said I was the one changing but I noticed it was him until the 21st of this month he told me that he really wanted to be with me but wasn’t in the right position to be in a relationship and that he was insecure about his future and needed time to think about his studies and make his mom happy and how his mom wasn’t so supportive of him being with someone younger and how he wanted to avoid anymore problems with his mother and how he wanted me to know that he loves me and that he’s always going to be there for me but I still don’t believe that’s the reason he left please give me your option

my story please read i need help

me and my boyfriend got together in july 2024 but we were best friends before that. i felt like i could tell him anything but i always had feelings for him. when we got together things were so good. he was my person. the only issue was my parents hated him. i didnt care tho. i went against them so many times just to be with him and he knows that. in October he started to get distant and i confronted him about it and he brushed it off. because i loved him i let it go but then it got to a point where we didnt speak at all. we had an argument and i ended up breaking up with him. i instantly regretted it and messaged him about how much i wanted it to work. he messaged my friend and told her he still lived me but he just had stuff going on in his life which he needed to focus on. At this point we were still in contact. He then blocked me on snap and i messaged him on imessage and we had another argument but two hours layer he came back and apologised. Ever since then we have been speaking once a month and he comes back to give me hope but then leaves again. its like he wants to check im still attached to him and idk what to do bcs i still love him. please support me

April 2025

We actually broke up in the end of may. She has already been deceiving me for months and now it’s been two months since we broke up. She broke up with me when i found out from someone else that she’s been lying to me about other people and what she has been doing. She’s always been lying about something but i couldn’t help but still love her and love the moments she gave me. She was my best friend and lover. I poured everything into her and she left me in the dust. She kept telling me that she found someone cute and then now she likes someone else. She has a crush on him but she still wants to be special in my life, or be the only girl i love or choose . I went through the worst time in april, my body was traumatized and i couldn’t do anything. The worst part was that i didn’t feel depressed, i felt everything. I slept and woke up with the heaviest heart everyday. I had no one to talk to and i still can’t help but feel the sting in my chest. Today i told her that if it brings her peace of mind that leave, that i will. But she said she doesn’t want that and she can be normal with me. She gets mad when she thinks there is someone else but tells me she has nothing for me anymore, no love, just a form of respect left. But when something rubs off on her even a bit; she blows up on me tells me the craziest things and then she tells me that the guy asked her on a date or that he likes her back. It still makes my heart sting even after all i’ve been through. The only reassurance i have is that i survived last month and it isn’t as bad. I don’t know what to do because i don’t want to let her go. Please help.

I need help

He basically broke up with me three weeks ago because he was tired and didn’t want a relationship anymore after we had been together for almost a year. He was my first love and we experienced all our firsts together. We have started to go no contact about two weeks ago and it’s honestly the worst thing ever because he was my best friend. I constantly check his social media and he keeps following more girls which is making me question if he didn’t want a relationship because he wanted to explore. However when we were breaking up we both cried and he did tell me he loves me and how this is really hard on him. He also said that if he ever wants a relationship again in the future he wants it to be with me. Is it silly that I have hope of us getting back together and should I just try and move on. Please tell me what you think as it would be much appreciated

First Love- make this make sense!

So the breakup happened in August last year.. and I have been through hell the past 9 months. To explain, it was his first relationship and I had had two short terms and a situationship before him, so I was experienced (ish) and he was not at all. We were together 18 months and we did a lot of firsts together. Things at the start were perfect, he put in the effort, he made plans, he was caring, supportive, funny, charming. Really the person I needed. I had never felt this way about someone before and at 3 months, I knew how I felt. But around then, when i started to hint how i felt, he started to withdraw- not completely, just in little things. I thought this was us getting comfortable and the honeymoon phase waring off. I was cautious that because this was his first relationship and i knew he wasn’t open with his family, that he, like me, struggled witb feelings and pressure. So eventually I said I loved him in a card- nothing cringey, just honest. And this was around 11 months in. He said he didn’t know how he felt- and I believed (still do) he looked so scared and vulnerable. But we both agreed we wanted to stay together because we had so much planned. This is where it went downhill His best online friend, who we met a few times and played games with, started to poke holes when we met up, saying we didn’t do pda and we always seemed two feet apart- she has a partner and a child with them and didn’t like it if he played games with me on our own. But he showed me the texts between them (i never asked) he said she was just a friend and I believed him. He started to withdraw again, saying that the distance was effecting us- and it was he lives in the city- 50 min drive and i live in a small town, he has to get the train and i usually drove up so we could only see eachother on weekends. He said we were both on different points in life- he had more savings to move out- i do not, but i changed that for him. But whenever we were alone- trips away- he was himself, we loved eachother’s company and he did the small things, never let me go without a brew, always looked after me- bought me thoughtful gifts for my birthday, spoke to me softly when we were alone- and when friends and family saw us together they could see how much he cared and how well we fit. In the end he withdrew again and I couldn’t deal with it- i got upset- we both were and he couldn’t bring himself to break up with me because he genuinley didn’t know. In the end i had to call him out over Snapchat of all places and we called and he said he didn’t know his own feelings, didn’t know what he was doing with his job or life and that I deserved someone that could say they loved me. He wanted to be friends and i said i needed space, we both cried and we said goodbye. I removed him off most things and kept gaming with our mutual friend but she got caught in the middle of us both wanting to game with her at the same time, so we fell out. when i tried to reach out a few months later he pushed me away and said he wasn’t ready and i removed and re added him. A few times, eventually i sent him a text say why i did that and that i still had feelings for him. And how the fallout with his friend made me feel. He left me on read It’s been 9 months and im still questioning why? Why did he not come back? I would love to be friends with them both again but I tried to reach out to him a few months ago and he just declined it. Everyone says its best to move on and “let it go” but its like I physically can’t and I am trying everything- exercise, hobbies, new friends and no one is scratching that itch or filling that hole that he left. So yeah help me make sense of what on earth changed and why he doesn’t want anything to do with me now. 👍🏻

First love break up

My ex and I have been together for 6 years, our relationship was rocky at first because we were long distance but in the end we made it. I’ve made mistakes in the past that I regret. But I thought we moved past them. He let his hurt go on for 3/4 years. We’ve been in and out of long distance to in person. He broke up with me last month because he felt like he just couldn’t forget, he said he forgives me but can’t forget. And that he loves me dearly but he’s not in love with me. And he doesn’t know if he’ll ever fall in love with me again. But always says only time can tell. He loved our relationship and won’t take it for granted it’s just he’s hurt. I owned up to my mistakes plenty of times and loved him and grown through our relationship and was the best girlfriend I could be. He said that I was an amazing girlfriend it’s just something he can’t forget. I do want us to get back together but I want it to be for us and not anyone else. How do I let go without letting go fully?

Ex

Hi so my ex has been stringing me along for awhile so I didn't talk to him for a 4 days after he just told me he wants to just be friends when he told me I don't need to move on yet. His mom works at the college as a dinner lady so I explained the situation to her today because apparently he told her what was going on but he didn't tell her the whole of it that he kept me waiting for ages and not telling her that he told me not to move on yet when he already knew the answer ages ago and the answer was no so she was cross that he strung me along like that which I'm not happy about either. She did tell him that he should have been honest with me at the start of it all. He just didn't want to hurt me but that isn't the point it hurts more now because his left it for so long. His mom said he thinks I hate him but I don't he just hurt me I did say to her I'll still be his friend but now I said that it's going to be harder for me to move on because I'm his friend and his probably going to come up to me to talk most of the time now.