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Heartbreak without even speaking
I finally felt ready to be open with someone. I met who I thought was an amazing guy - shared goals and values. We could speak easily about anything. Until I learned that he’s not so good speaking about conflicts. We became official 3 months after dating. Two months in the relationship, I could see his effort was waning. I expressed that I felt like I wasn’t a priority and he withdrew entirely. Despite numerous attempts to speak, he went into a shell. Didn’t even try to call me. Then he broke up via text. Then made promises to meet in person and hasn’t even followed through. I had no agency. He treated me like we had just been on the first date and he realised he didn’t want to continue. I’ve been emotionally and physically weak for 3 weeks.
We broke up
Me and my fiance of five years broke up on the 21st I’m really devastated and finding it hard to believe it’s real but we’ve got a one year old son together and he hasn’t seen him in over a week I don’t know what to do or say but one thing I know is my son needs me
5 years gone
My ex partner who I thought I was going to be marrying and moving in soon left me. It’s my fault I would say I was very honest and safe and Great but so ehweee down the line I started yelling and I couldn’t stop She finally had enough and left Now I’m here alone full of regrets and self hatred I hate the next day the next minute of this existence She says she’s happier and relieved now that we aren’t together and I believe her. I want to let her go in happiness but I don’t want to loose her forever. I want to stay but I know it would kill me to see her with anyone else.
Can’t let go
My ex cheated on me, we were together for 4 years. We even lived together last year. I felt like everything was going perfect until he started getting more and more distant and no effort or attention was given to the relationship anymore. It’s been 6 months since we broke up now. But only 2 of those months was without a contact. I always reach out to him, because I get so sad and he was like a friend to me too. I feel so bonded, like a part of me is gone with him. I just want to let him go, I know he doesn’t appreciate me. But how do I close this chapter and look forward. How do I stop thinking or letting my self get disrespected time after time. I know I have to stop hurting my self by reaching out, but in a way I am already hurting just, alone now.
Venting
My ex broke up with me randomly after being in a long distance for almost two months. We did have a hard time communicating because our schedules would not match up. My whole family and friends believe there is someone else. Some times I do too, however other times I doubt it because it doesn’t match with some of the things we talked throughout the break up. I just don’t know if knowing the facts would make it harder or easier to move on. However thinking the possibility of there being someone else and him not being honest makes me feel disrespected by him and his family in a way (his mom checks in me sometimes and she know I was concerned there was someone else when the break up happened initially, I know she doesn’t owe me to tell me tho) Not just by the possible cheating but the lack of honesty. I’m just conflicted because I also know that it won’t make a difference on the outcome.
Rage and hate
I was with him for 8 years. We had different life goals and showed love in different ways. I understood his reason for breaking up with me. I did. But he moved on so fast. We still own a house together and I was dropping off my dog for him to watch while I was away and her stuff is there. Her toothbrush in my cup. Her tampons in my drawer. I’ve never felt so betrayed and angry in my life. I understand the split and his need to move on. But why did it have to be so fast and why couldn’t he wait until the house was sold and we never had to see each other again. It’s such a slap in my face. I’ve only been moved out three weeks.
Hard to get out of bed
Procrastinating getting out of bed…sighs
Venting
I was in a relationship for 7 years and we both had to move to different places and suddenly has to adapt to a crazy, new, and demanding schedule. Less than two months in my ex decided that it was best to break up over text. I went on a spiral because nothing had been mentioned about issues and two days before fire we were talking about Christmas gift for our families.It was so bad that it affected my professional life as well and I started having anxiety attacks. We stayed texting for a while and one day my ex just suddenly stopped after texting me the day before we would talk the next day. It was just so different from what I am used to from this person. I am just having a hard time moving on because it feels like I was betrayed in a way and I don’t even know this person. I feel blindsided and abandoned. I don’t even feel like I can talk to friends and family at times because everyone just expects me to get over it at a fast speed that I can’t even imagine. I am trying to, I have kept myself busy and make sure to work on myself. But some days are just hard on me.
toxic
me and my ex partner got together in October last year and for the 6-7 months we were together it was all a lie he was cheating constantly. I’ve been no contact for 2 weeks and will never go back but I feel disgusted and so depressed!
Missing him
We broke up on the 20th of march because they were dealing with mental issues and they blocked me on everything, I haven’t been able to sleep properly or eat properly without feeling sick. My eyes burn from crying all day, I’ve developed a cold from crying and I’ve been feeling like am going to throw up half the time, Ive lost the motivation to do anything, Ive even lost the motivation to play games or get out of bed. All i want is for them to come back. All i keep dreaming of is them coming back to me, They were my absolute joy. And now they are gone.
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