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My ex and I were together for 8 years and the reasoning for breaking up was partially my fault (we broke up 2/9/2025) . He would constantly rub stuff in my face and make me feel terrible, all to find out he was hiding and lying about a “secret” that I would constantly ask him about and he’d call me crazy for asking and deny the thing that was brought up. Although I felt extremely betrayed, hurt, and humiliated, I was very accepting and grateful that he finally admitted to it after all those years and blocking me for 5 months with very little contact. I was so happy because I felt it was a step closer to us getting back together and working things out. Fast forward to that night he admitted, I find out that the day after he left me and moved out of state to his brothers, he had sex with a girl from Tinder and has been texting 30+ women from Tinder since. I never knew he was that kind of person. I felt and still feel like my world was shattered. He became the person that he used to make fun of… The crazy thing is is that I was willingly to forgive him even after him telling me terrible things and terrible names. So fast forward to maybe 3 weeks since I found that out. I went to church with a friend and the church posted us on their insta with his hand on my knee while praying. My ex saw that, called me, and told me that I’ll never get him back, I’ll never be a good gf/wife, and that he’ll treat his next gf soooo much better than he ever treated me… So that made me feel terrible because I stuck with him through all of his bad “stuff”, yet I won’t be able to experience the good? And another thing is he can have sex with other people and go on tinder but me going to church with somebody is where he draws the line. I don’t really get that? I’m still extremely hurt because it doesn’t make sense to me how he could do all of that and say all those mean things to me. Regardless of all the pain and betrayal, I still love him with all of my heart…
Feeling guilty
My ex and I dated for a year and two months. I’m a 21 year old female and he’s a 23 year old male. 3 months in he calls me his exs name whom he dated for 2.5 years. He apologized and I stayed, then a few days later I find women lotion and perfume in his room he proceeds to tell me they are his then I tell him I have the same ones it’s for women don’t lie please be honest. He says yes sorry they’re my ex I forgot to throw them away. This caused so much doubt in our relationship it messed everything up I felt that he was never over her. Then he gets invited to a wedding and he’s a groomsmen. He says he’s going on a guys trip with the grooms men and fails to tell me that the bridesmaids are staying in the same Airbnb. I felt so worried lost and insecure because that sounds really bad like he’s doing something sneaky. I argue with him through messages mind you we are still dating come to find out he tells me recently that we weren’t together during that time bc I wasn’t answering his messages. Events like this continued throughout the year I became verbally abusive towards him. I threatened to cheat on him because I was so over it. I didn’t mean it but eventually June 28 I had the chance and I cheated on him with a girl. Part of me felt like he deserved it and part of me regretted it. I told him that same morning and that’s where everything fell apart. He said he wasn’t sure if we could fix things and then he eventually reached out to his ex the one I was always worried about in the middle of us trying to fix things. I can’t help to think that I deserve it but I also think it’s very unfair after everything he put me through.
New break up
Been with him for 7 years. He recently started a new job and everything changed. We’ve always had minor problems but nothing to the point that we were unhappy. Now all of a sudden, he says “some days I want to be in a relationship and some days I don’t” and he been saying that “he wants to see how it’s feels to be alone and maybe he’s missing out on things that he feels he never experienced. It’s hurts the most because he wanted this relationship. We were friends before this and I know after everything, I lost a friend and a boyfriend.. please send words of encouragement. I definitely need it
Lost best friend
I’ve lost my best friend and as a single parent it’s hard to find friendships that can offer the emotional support I need right now. I have casual friends I’d get a drink with, but not a friend I can call upset about the breakup. I don’t want to burden my casual friends with trauma dumping and I’m scared to lose the few connections I still have. I want to remain single and try to find/build those friendships but it’s so hard.
Stuck in pain.
It’s only been 3 weeks since our breakup and my ex is living the high life. He went on a holiday to Mykonos and posting it all over social media how happy and carefree he is, as if I never existed or meant anything. He’s going from beach to beach partying and enjoying his time and freedom whilst I’m stuck in the hurt and pain of having to walk away when I felt like my emotional needs weren’t being met. Sometimes I doubt myself like did I make the right decision to walk away that day, what would the outcome have been if we stayed together. I’m definitely feeling the grief more now I’ve seen him moving on so publicly on social media feels like our relationship wasn’t even real that I made it up in my head because he’s unfazed . And it’s now like I’m addicted at looking at his social media and seeing if he still cares and analysing his captions and hashtags. It’s only been 3 weeks and is still fresh. Being getting heart palpitations l, lost my appetite, feel sick and anxious, I keep getting brain fog forgetting things. I hope that I can finally heal and not feel this pain anymore.
My first love.
So basically me and him were on and off from october all the way til june our last and final time being together was from may 21 to june 21 and i put all my heart and soul and tears into that relationship i tried so hard to get him to be good to me because it was clear he loved me but he wasn’t in love with me like i was in love with him in the end we both agreed we just needed to stop getting back together and we don’t have that same spark. but i always always ALWAYS felt a spark with him i loved him so much he was my first love and i can’t get over him i never have when we broke up the first second third fourth fifth and finally the sixth time every single time i still knew i loved him. but he didn’t love me. we haven’t talked in 15 days but we have school on august 8th and im scared ill see him and instantly just like fall back in love the type of love you get butterflies when you talk to them and knees get weak and you get that look. i don’t think ill ever be fully over him.
Ahhhhh
I broke up with my ex and went straight into a rebound 😅 I feel like I have no respect for myself and I don’t know what to do !
Heart sank
Struggling to stay afloat. My ex and I share a circle. We had a secret romance. He moved on. Is currently dating someone. I’m trying to stay positive and mind my own business. But information about them just finds itself to me. They’ll be going on a trip this weekend. Like why do I need to know that? I didn’t even ask for that. The universe just has it out for me. I’d do anything to wake up one day and not give a fuck about what he’s doing. I feel so lost.
Why so sudden?
I’ve recently gone through a breakup that I didn’t want, and it’s been deeply overwhelming. We were together for two years, and it ended suddenly. I’ve been feeling really lost, anxious, and heartbroken, like I can’t function or breathe without this person. I keep trying to hold onto hope, but it’s also tearing me apart. I don’t know how to let go, and I don’t feel like myself anymore. I want help learning how to deal with the loss, how to give space, and how to focus on myself again, even if that means accepting something I really don’t want to be true.
Master plan but jokes on him now
He kept pushing our wedding date back so I called it quits and checked his phone. Looks like he was causing chaos because he is setting up sleeping with other women and prob wanted to do it without the guilt. Meanwhile I am here living together, going half on bills to help him, raising his two children (that are not by me), and doing everything a wife would do and in his free time with his free money BECAUSE OF THE HELP I PROVIDE he is seeking sex from sex workers and telling everyone we already broke up. So this was planed, he is pretending to be fighting for me after I broke up with him and began looking for a place but I saw the things and his phone and now I know it was all part of a plan. Little does he know I signed my lease and move in in 25 days. He won’t even get to fix this and will need to make arrangements to clpay his own bills as take care of his kids by himself. Jokes on his
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