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I cheated and lost her. Please help :(
We had two years and me constantly treating her wrong and when I finally fixed my ways, it was too late 😞she wants to stay friends and stay in touch, and I can tell she still has feelings for me. But she’s already choosing to try and move on by talking to someone else. How can I get her to see my change? How can i prove that it won’t be the same if she takes me back :(
ache
i can’t help but look through our old conversations. we were together almost 3 years and it’s october which is the month we fell in love. everyday is another “one year ago today” of us so in love. i never could have imagined that by the next october we would be done. im still so in love with him and my heart is so achey. when i read our old messages i cant help but think none of it was real. because how could he say so many loving and vulnerable and deep and intimate, beautiful things just to leave me. if you’re going through this too just know you’re not alone 💕
Idk
First day of no contact and so confused on why we broke up he said he lost feelings, but then says he loves me and misses me. It was a year and a half long relationship, it was perfect and he was so sweet to me. People say think of all the bad things he did to you and how he shouldn’t treat you that way, but he never treated me bad ever. Just sucks idek how i lost him and would have done anything to keep him in my life.
Ex+BD
I broke up with my bd two days ago but I still love him very much and obviously we have to stay in contact and it’s so hard for me not to beg for him back but we fought everyday didn’t talk much but it pains me to think of him with someone else but I know we aren’t good for each other and I can’t help but cry knowing my family is broken
Venting/seeking other opinions or even help.
It has been 4 months since I last talked to her. I was the one who ended things in June but we stayed very close up until July. She thought we still had a chance at being together but I had told her I don’t think it’s right to get back together because we constantly argued. After I told her that, she immediately found a guy a lot faster than I thought she would, it crushed me because that’s when I realized how much I loved her. She found a guy who has the same name as me and he sounds 100x better than me. When I first found out it put me in a dark place I got very depressed and suicidal. Me and her went out to eat one night to discuss things and when she told me what he’s like it made me feel worse, I was tempted to tell her about my depression and suicidal tendencies. When we went out to eat I told her I think I may be done with the dating life for good .I knew telling her about the suicidal thoughts wasn’t a great idea but I did it anyway out of the pressure. She told me I needed to talk to my family since I am so close to them. But after I explained the whole situation to my friends they told me she sounded super manipulative and that gave me the courage to cut contact with her. Once I did in a respectful manner she ended up calling me and was going crazy telling me I’m insane, that I needed to seek help, that the other day I wanted to stay friends and begged her and now I changed my mind. She said it would be the last time we spoke to each other after I was trying to fix things with her during the convo. I haven’t talked to her since but I hangout with a close friend that has her on social media and we talk about both of our problems. I tend to cry about her often and can’t seem to get away from my thoughts about her. I’m struggling a lot right now.
Vent
I think about her no matter what I’m doing I can’t get her out of my head, no matter what I do she’s always in the back of my mind. I know I need to love myself more because without her I feel empty. She cheated on me 4 times I want to move on so bad but I know eventually she will beg for me again and I’ll go back to the same cycle. I kept loving her and loving her because I thought she would change. As someone that has an anxious attachment it’s so hard to love an avoidant.
My twin flame
My imagined future…We were truly engaged before the breakup. I imagined a wedding on the beach. Just us with our feet in the sand. Then having a big party with our friends/family when we returned. I imagined growing old together. Getting a small house on the beach. Just living a happy simple life. Just loving each other and having a lot of physical time together. It was out of this world. Like I saw stars more than once. We were so connected in a ridiculous amount of ways not just physically. He is 100% my twin flame. You could feel the energy between us when we would touch. It was electric. We could put our lips super close and not even touch yet feel like we were kissing. We were just living. Reading, doing hobbies, laying in the sun, him playing guitar and using chat GPT. He is truly a genius and an insane guitarist. I recognized those things in him instantly. I honestly feel like I am dying and dead inside. Like half of my soul has been ripped out of my body.
Missing him
Why do we miss those who hurt us the most? Why our minds are wired to the good moments which were limited compared to the abuse and emotional pain we felt by how they treated and disrespected us? He was a narcissist and he succeeded in walking out of the relationship convincing me that I was the issue. He is living his life today while I sit here questioning and crying over him……
Am I a loser
No matter what I’m doing she seems to be able to creep right into my thoughts and it’s been a whole year and I’m still thinking about her. I feel at a loss because the last time we spoke she told me she didn’t love me in a romantic way but more in a friendship way and I was BALLING MY EYES OUT in her car in my driveway like a pussy. I can’t move on what do I do now. Also sorry if ts doesn’t make sense I’m just typing my thoughts exactly as they are coming into my head.
Am I a loser
No matter what I’m doing she seems to be able to creep right into my thoughts and it’s been a whole year and I’m still thinking about her. I feel at a loss because the last time we spoke she told me she didn’t love me in a romantic way but more in a friendship way and I was BALLING MY EYES OUT in her car in my driveway like a pussy. I can’t move on what do I do now. Also sorry if ts doesn’t make sense I’m just typing my thoughts exactly as they are coming into my head.
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