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We Separated yesterday
A 3 year off an on relationship with this guy, he would break up with me only to come back to me. Even when we weren’t talking I still had feelings for him, and apparently he did too although he did nothing to show it. I also found out that he was dating someone else while he was talking to me and I allowed it although I knew that I wasn’t the priority, he would take her out to do things with her, introduced his now ex friends to her. He never did any of that with me. Although he thought I forgot about him telling me he dating someone else, I never did. After they broke up, he said that he wanted to be with me, and I thought things would be better but it only got worse. We used to talk often but randomly one day that communication decreased, from days to weeks and eventually a month, we’d go from talking almost everyday to talking one or twice a month. He would still reach out to me saying he likes me and wants to be with me, then another month saying he doesn’t want a relationship because his last one was “too much”. Then would reach out to me again and talk. Recently we both talked about our feelings again, he said that he thought I didn’t wanna talk to him again because we doing talk often, or he thought I didn’t like him anymore. I said I did but I said it’s inconsistency and laziness but didn’t I didn’t specify more about that. Then yesterday he unfollowed me, I asked why and he said that “idk rn about me and you, I still like you it’s just me rn tbh” “I thought that you didn’t wanna talk again because there’s nothing we can really talk about anymore” and that “it’s not your fault it’s just how it is sometimes and it’s okay” . I told him the reason why I’m talking less to him and suppressing my feelings is because he doesn’t show that he likes me and that we can’t just rely on textual communication to talk, if he did stuff with me then things would probably be different, he acknowledged that and said that’s it’s his issue and he is sorry and that he gets why I’ve been distant but doesn’t want to do anything about it and just essentially wants me to stay distant because he “doesn’t want to hurt me or anything” once he asked me if I still wanted something (as in being together) I said I do (although I know what answer I’ll get) then I asked him, he said “yeah idk rn, sorry” I just said “okay don’t apologize for something you don’t want” then he said “yeah I know I still feel bad ya know” I just accepted what’s happening and that’s how this all ended pretty much. Still feeling horrible tbh
Struggling
My ex boyfriend left me a month ago we were together for 2 years. He left because I couldn’t get my mental health together and would some times say mean stuff when I was drunk. I’ve taken all the blame and apologised but he worked loads and I needed someone there, he’s taken no accountability in it and not heard me out now I’ve had the space to process what happened. I got triggered the other day talking to him and spiralled again. I feel awful I thought he was my soul mate. How do you get over ruining a relationship with the person I love the most? I’m doing the work on myself but I thought he would be here to support me
He put an AVO on me for CALLING HIM when he ghosted me
He moved in with me because his parents hated me and his mum was a psycho but then he went on their side and when he didn’t come back home on the 3rd night I called him 60 times and got no response so his sister called the police on me for harassing him.. now I have court on Wednesday.
Together for 2 years, extremely toxic
We were together for two years and it was extremely toxic but I love her with my whole heart and I would do anything for her and to make things right. At the same time i’m much happier without her. This is also my first WLW breakup so someone give me some advice on how to stop wanting to get back with her even though I know i’ll be happier without her.
i miss him so much
my now ex broke up with me 17 days ago every single day since all i’ve wanted to do was lay in bed and cry we had been together for 6 months and the reason he ended things with me is because i was very shy and awkward in person i facetimed him every night and would text him all day long but than when we would be in person i would freeze i hate myself for this because if it wasn’t for how stupid i was we could’ve still been together when we i truly care about someone i get so quiet and i don’t know why i think it’s because im scared there gonna change there mind and not like me anymore. he’s already talking to a new girl and has no care at all the girl is 2 years younger than me my ex was one year younger than me so there only one year about but i just feel like rid already replaces me with some younger girl and i just feel so worthless ands that every complete he’s ever given me was just a leis and that he’s gonna say it all to her now like i can’t even belive i can’t call him mine anymore i want to throw up thinking about how he’s gonna call another girl his girlfriend soon enough every few seconds im checking my phone to see if he has snapped me back or texted me he snaps me every night a few times ms and he keeps sending me mirror pictures his new girl keeps texting me i thought we were friends and she was asking me if i still liked him i thought she was asking as a friend so i said yes now i found out that they liked eachotwr and she was trying to find out to see if he liked her not because she cared about me so i also feel betrayed this is the longest relationship i’ve ever had and i really thought we were gonna last i love every single thing about him and i don’t know how to move on i need help
Met my ex in rehab
He was my best friend and my support in all aspects of my life. We lived together for almost 2 years. I lost my job a month ago and got a new job that starts Feb 3. He told me he could take care of things so I could get back on my feet but he completely abandoned me. He works 2 jobs and worked longer hours and left me home alone to deal with myself. There was no support and I called him last night and he told me, everything was my fault. I was going through an emotional time switching jobs and he kicked me out before I could start. The job I took was closer to my house and now I can’t do it because I am too far away. I am financially struggling, my things are still at his place and I am so scared to get them. I just want my best friend back.
finally left my emotion abuser for good
i finally left my emotionally abusive boyfriend i knew for 6 months a very intense 6 months. i loved him with my whole heart. but without change. i can’t be with someone like that. i don’t even need to put up with abuse regardless. i was minimised, name called, gaslight, manipulated, mind games, given the silent treatment, emotionally abandoned, shouted at the list goes on… having a traumatic childhood. you get attached to these people as it’s the love you think you deserve and have been deprived of. i am here to tell anyone who is going through this. you are loved, believed and you deserve so much better than this person. it has nothing to do with you all to do with them. there is the future you waiting but you need to get to the other side and take that leap. never give up on your right to freedom. it’s a long healing road but so worth it. ❤️🔥
Done for good
throughout our one and a half year relationship he’s left me many times but this time when I confronted him for his behavior it was the last time he said we would ever be together and I don’t wanna be hurt over it because I should be happy to be out of it, but I’m hurt because I wanted it to be him and I don’t have any more tries left in me for anyone else.
Just got dumped again yesterday
Over the past 9 years he’s dumped me over a dozen times. Then he asks me to come back and I do. I don’t even know what I did this time, he just ghosted me out of the blue. The pain is so debilitating. I’ve been to counselors begging for help but they can’t help me because I can’t help myself. I feel so alone, everyone around me is happy - or at least normal and I’m in the bell jar
Depressed
My 4 years relationship got end i dono what to do m really depressed tried to contact her and tried to apology she blocked me everywhere
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