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233 days..
7 months since he broke up with me (he was a narcissist, and an emotional abuser). But Time really flies. I thought I was never gonna survive that breakup, I begged, I cried, I did everything possible so he can stay, I wonder today how could I do that to myself? I still get these emotional waves and anger moments. I hold so much anger for letting someone treat me miserable, for letting him make me feel so little. I am struggling today to manage that anger, because our2.5 year relationship ended in a very chaotic situation. He ended it THROUGH TEXT??!! I got no chance to defend or say anything, I just had to deal with it and force myself to block him immediately because of how much abuse I took during our last conversation. I really beed help with this anger, what do I do?? Please share tips to help me 🙏🏻🤍
Horrible evenings.
IThe evenings are the hardest, I can’t sleep because of the loneliness, memories and heavy heart with sadness, getting myself crying every single night asking the same questions to myself like “ how can he say he loved me and treated me so good but avoid me as if I didn’t matter to him, I overthink and get so anxious, angry and annoyed and eventually just lay in bed cries just because of the idea of my lovey is not laying next to me and my thoughts just go crazy. He didn’t choose me because I pushed alot of pressure on him for him to succeed and help me provide in the house and fights or stand up for me when he’s family was say very rude and hurtful things to me or about me. He already moved on like was I this easy to forget, because he rather choose a girl he knows for 2 weeks than coming back by and communicate (this was a problem/ jealousy) I miss him so much. Please advise me because I can’t be sad and angry everyday I feel so miserable and lost and could he reLly just move forward and hurt me lijw this
Forever isn’t always forever
My ex and I were together for over two years. He broke up with me because of poor communication. I explained that I didn’t grow up in a home with good communication skills, and even though I was trying my best, it wasn’t enough for him. At one point, he told me there was still hope we could get back together, and I clung to that hope. But recently, he broke my heart even more. He said he’s done for good and that he couldn’t trust me anymore. I asked him if he was talking to someone or in a relationship. At first, he didn’t want to answer, but I pressed him, and he finally admitted that he is talking to someone. He told me I should move on and forget about him, which felt confusing because just two weeks ago we spoke about trying again. He said he didn’t want the other person to feel like they were in any kind of competition. He ended our conversation by saying he doesn’t care what I do and that I should move on if I can. I am now in a depressed state with no one to speak to or hear me out.😪
i can’t do this anymore
i miss them so much. it hurts so much more without them then it ever did with them. how do i get over this
we lost the spark
Can someone help me please!? ( and sorry about my English its not that good) So like a week ago i kinda broke up with him because i just didn’t feel that spark anymore, he was really dry, he didn’t send me no more love letters, like all that. but when i did broke up with him, i just texted him the same night, because i was crying, i was feeling so sick, i was thinking what will i do without him, like i know that im gonna get over it in like 6 months but think about it, 6 months without the person you loved so much and he was the only friend to you too. like how can i get over him or get some type of ick that i just don’t feel anything? my body is already over it but my brain just can’t move on. please girlies help mee, give me your tipss, how you got over someone?
Huh
This is the first time in a couple days where I thought about him like I briefly thought about him or mentioned him to people on the dating app that I’m on because they’ve asked me about past relationships but right now I’m thinking about him and our memories I wish I didn’t and the way it did, but I know I can’t be a part of that life. That’s not the life. I deserve. That’s not how I deserve to be treated and now there is sometimes you treated me good And I know he cared, but I cannot accept that type of love. I’m not going to accept it anymore the love that comes with constant criticism, condescension the love that comes with excuses and lies. I can’t take it anymore. I wanna get rid of our things, but at the same time I don’t I don’t have the strength to look at old pictures yet because every time I do I just freeze. I was so in love in those photos. What did I do? What did I do?
Help
I want to speak to my ex boyfriend so badly. I really do, God I hate myself for being so pathetic for still wanting to be with him. I hate how people tell me this is normal and it pass but I don’t think it will… I truly don’t think so… I just want him so badly but I’m scared at the same time I’m just so scared and I don’t know what to do anymore. It’s been months. I hate myself, I hate myself. He is always, always on my mind.
Need advice
I need help on this situation me and my ex have been on and off since July 2024 due to distance we live an hour and 30 mins away from each other and we are both still are in high school but we always circle back to each other every couple months and like we can’t leave each other alone and this recent time when we were dating we were able to see each other alot more and sometimes we would just meet in the middle at places and see each other for a couple of hours because gas is expensive to be driving 3 hours there and back when we could make it like 2 hours by meeting in the middle but his dad doesn’t like that and will say things to him about it how it’s not a real relationship if we can’t see each other all the time and cause we have to meet places sometimes and besides that he’s just not a good dad but it was draining my ex bf now to hear it from him and others so we decided to break up but we are still in contact idek like we will text and then go no contact and it’s like he truly makes me extremely happy and I love him and ik he loves me to but we both graduate soon should I just deal with it for a little longer or should I try to move on but I’ve dated other guys and no one has made me feel the way he has so please just help me and give me advice it can be brutal
I broke up with my bf
We only dated for 3 months but I loved him so much. We were perfect together. Both our families loved each other. One night we were on the phone and we weren’t getting along and he said “there’s a 50/50 chance I break up with you tn” (there was a little bit of build up from previous weeks) and then he said “im sure one of your exes will date you” and I just said okay I think we should not do this anymore. He told me he has been having family issues when I told him today that I missed him and I would be better for him. What do you think the chances are we get back together.
Worried I lost my soulmate
I only dated my ex for 5-6 months. He was genuinely the best thing that ever happened to me. I was his first girlfriend and he was my first boyfriend. We spent the summer together, went to cute beaches, bought each other gifts that reminded us of each other. He broke up with me because he said he mentally can’t be in a relationship and give me what I deserve. He looks so much happier now that he’s single. I miss him every day and cry every night because every part of me misses him. It’s been 3 months and I just don’t know how to live without him. I’m in college and everyone keeps saying I have time to find my husband but I only want him. I could use some advice on getting over that first heartbreak.
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