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Short but sweet
We were only dating a little over a month and a half. I got broken up with because he says he needs to work on himself, by himself. Apparently being with me gave him so much peace, and the ability to be so vulnerable, that in turn, it made him realize that he has a lot of trauma that he’s not dealt with. That part makes sense. He’s cried to me about some of them a handful of times. Last night, after he made that decision, we held each other for hours, absolutely sobbing. He says he loves me, this is making him heartbroken, but he doesn’t want to drag me through the mud with him while he works on himself, he doesn’t think he can upkeep a relationship while dealing with his internal trauma, and it doesn’t help that he’s moving 8 hours away in 2 weeks. He doesn’t feel good enough for me right now. He said that he would like to revisit this after he’s healed but doesn’t know when that’ll be. Am I being selfish by asking him to reconsider, and that I just want to be there for him, even if that means that he can’t always be there for me in my times of need? I’ve done it by myself for so long now, I just don’t want to lose him.
Spilt up - e-mail after one perfect weekend
Ні, I'm not going to go on an on, I just need to tell you how I feel and why I am ending our relationship. I can't be the person you want, I'm not available in that way, I will never get married again. I can't go through this discussion, even if you are semi joking, or pretending to joke... It never stops. I won't move to another country ever again, you keep asking, it will never happen, it's not funny, that stupid discussion at the bar really hardened my heart. We are not compatible anymore, I want less, you want more, it breaks my heart, but our futures are completely different. I'm sorry, but it's best that we split ,and it will not changt,
Searching answers
Do you believe my ex will regret the way he treated me and disrespected me? Do you believe that he misses me like I miss him although everything that happened? Do you think that my ex is relieved now that he dumped me? Guys really regret t house things with time or they never look back? I’m really heartbroken I would like some answers in order to understand why I was never enough for him to try and commit with me but why he was able to commit and try with others many times? This is embarrassing but I’m lonely in this process
idk how i feel.
We were together for just a year she ended up losing feelings and a bunch of other things. But it feels so hard to believe that she did. I loved her with my whole heart and she didn’t. She was overly flirty with other people, got mad when i’d try to be affectionate in public, never looked at my side of the story, etc. She was just a really toxic person i don’t know i why i miss her so much. After we broke up we started talking again. To summarize it she only did it to use me for my body. Im still young so i know i have a lot to look forward to but this girl fucked me up. She knew my whole family. One moment i’ll be fine then the next i’m crying. My parents are worried about me, my grades are dropping bad and i’m just always sad. Even tho she was toxic i can’t imagine somebody treating me better than she did. After everything how could she move on so fast? How could she do me so dirty. And why do i want her back so bad? I wanna be happy again.
Advice
Why do I consistently feel like he's going to come back, I've seen my therapist and he told me its my emotional side of my brain taking over my rational side of my brain, it's like I feel it deep in my soul that he might but I'm not sure if that's what I want! How do y'all handle this? I've been doing self-talk with my rational side to squash the hope but it doesn't go away and I keep waking up every morning since almost having a full-blown panic attack because of it!! I just want my emotional side to stop, I keep telling myself he's not coming back and it wasn't my decision.
Help me stop crying
Mybf of 5 years left and he was the only person keeping me going
I wanna know if I did the right thing.
So this man I have been talking to for a year from a distant place. He is very nice and talks to me everyday and video calls with me. We have a mutual understanding that we will only be in a relationship after we meet in person and it’s already scheduled and he already bought a ticket. We have shared a lot of things to each other and even send cards to each other’s address. It feels like a romantic relationship already although he refuses to put a label yet. But recently, he told me that he is gonna spend an entire weekend with a friend who is a girl whom she met at the same platform that we did. And he really did even though I acted cold. And he didn’t noticed I was upset and he even sounded very excited. He said that she is not her type and he don’t like her after some time of talking because she was annoying. He ensured me that it’s only friendly. But it bothers me a lot because it just don’t feel right and that a man and a woman spending a weekend together. Who is he fooling? So I decided to end it. But now it gives me second thought wether O was just overacting and they are really just friends and he just want to show her his place?
Want him back, still living together
Boyfriend recently broke up with me over resentment. He says he still cares and loves me. I’m taking this extremely hard. I want him back and I want him to see I’ve changed. It’s been about 3 years and our first year was really tough and he still hasn’t forgiven me. It’s only been four days and he’s already chatting up other girls he says it’s just a distraction to avoid falling back to me. I’m just sad and I really believe he is the love of my life. Im giving him the space and time and hoping for a change of mind from him. I figure if I continue to show that I’m different now he can come around to truly forgiving me. I know it might just be over but he’s autistic so it does take him longer to get over things than the average person. I just love him and am not ready to fully close the door on us.
How do I stop?
I'm not sure how to stop unblocking and texting him because I miss him so much and I always know he's gonna text me back. How do i stop myself from doing this? I know I never want to get back with him but for some reason I just always want to text him, even though every time we just get into an argument or it just makes me ten times more sad. Tomorrow would've been our two years and I just feel so lonely because I don't have any friends anymore and he was my best friend. People say to reflect on why I blocked him but it just feels like no generic advice like that helps me.
Avoidant narcissist with victim mentality
I was anxiously codependent on an avoidant narcissist with a victim mentality. I broke up with her when she walked out mid conversation about how bad the relationship has gotten and didn’t contact me for 5 days. I recently learnt, she was already talking to someone knew while I was with her and within 2 weeks of our breakup, they already slept together. Has anyone experienced anything similar and how did you overcome the breakup?
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