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Im stuck

She won’t stop reaching out to me.She broke it off on Halloween we had plans to watch ghostbusters and have a fun night.It turned into a long night of drinking.But she won’t stop reaching out she says she cares but she won’t stop talking to this guy who caused us lots of troubles in our relationship.You could even say this person has caused me trauma and anxiety.Im forced to just let go of what once was but I’m slowly losing myself.Im doing things I’m not proud of.Im drinking everyday,I have a very unhealthy tolerance to alcohol,I’m pushing everyone away.I even am pushing away God the one person who was there with me through the start.I wish someone would just sit with me and tell me everything will be okay.Maybe just once

Emotional abuse through 8months marriage

I have stepped into marriage way too quick.. we have known each other for 8months until we were married. Everything was so wonderful. There were some red flags but we were able to have open discussion about small misunderstandings. One month after marriage he started to be silent. Every approach of trying to understand why he went on “isolation mode” and silent treatment end up with him speaking to me very badly.. “shut up”, “fuck off” “you are the only problem in my life” “I don’t want to speak to you”. A lot of manipulation started happening. On top of that he started bailing on me when I expected his support. I filled for divorce. He said he agrees but he loves me and his heart is in millions pieces. I am confident I am doing myself a favor - I have been very empathetic, loving yet I started loosing myself in it. Divorce process started and I am dieing inside 😞

Cheated on me and bashed me to another women who’s older then me

I was in a long distance relationship with this guy but he hooked up with a older women at the delay in Vegas and they both flew out to they city Dallas and hooked up and starting treating me wrong all because he came across something new I’m so hurt y’all I’m sick to my stomach he lied to my face and made me feel like I was crazy when I was right about him cheating the whole time

Missing Him

I’d been feeling better and more confident in moving forward and focusing on myself until our brief interaction about business. He slipped in a message about how he apologized for everything and that he cared about me and wanted to see me doing well no matter what. He made it clear he wasn’t trying to fix anything but just wanted me to know. I don’t respond to it and kept it about business. Deep down I wanted to put it all on the table and share what I was feeling but decided not to. But deep down I miss him and no matter what I do, I still feel this connection that won’t seem to go away.

Sad

He left last night today I’m packing and moving out feel out of my body don’t know what to do don’t have anyone for support leaving an 8 year relationship

Letting go!

I knew a girl who in the end was a dismissive avoidant and I’ve known her for 3 years when she needed help understanding court duty! It was random how I helped her! Because after we both started to talk non stop! Fast forward January 1st we finally became a couple! But there was so much hurt in the relationship! Her avoidant attachment made it hard for me to love her! Every time I would get close she founds ways to push away! And it hurts to see her go! We broke up a month ago November! Her telling me she didn’t feel the same and didn’t want a future with me hurt me! Even if we dated for 10 months it felt like those 3 years I dated her and took a lot of my time too understand her for her flaws how she felt! Yet she gave up and avoided any conflict or deep conversations to try to fix the relationship and most of the time she would trigger me. I’ve been hurting but at the same time healing! Learning to love myself! And understanding this person needs to heal first and become emotionally available for herself! I wish her the best! I remember the good times and it hurts remember what we had! But healing will help me become the best version of myself!

11 months

me and my ex have been broken up 11 months yet i still feel the same as i did the day it happened. i also just found out today that he has a new girlfriend ts hurts so bad but it’s been so long, idk how im still stuck on him after all this time but i love him and ive never loved anyone more than i did him. we were always happy and laughing whenever we were together, im just not sure where it went wrong. we’ve seen each other after the breakup a few times and messaged quite a lot but both of those things were only because he wanted to see me for one thing if ykyk. i let him because i love him and i would do anything to see him, and when we did see each other it was like we had never even broken up, he was the same as when we were dating. (just want to clarify this hasn’t happened since he got with his new girlfriend) although we was messaging but i didn’t know he was with someone until today, they’ve been together around 3 weeks and we last spoke yesterday??? (he messaged me first). not sure what to do about that situation but the point of this is how do i stop feeling this way all the time after so long. always hearing people saying “it gets better” and “you’ll be fine” but WHEN. nothing is changing except from the time of how long it has been, i still feel the exact same.

Missing Him

My relationship with my ex was very unhealthy. He cheated and I struggled to end things for a long time. I have started dating other people now. But it has been really difficult. My ex and I had sooo much fun together and had so much in common. I miss hanging out with him and spending time together. But, I'm not going to put myself through the cheating again. The grief and emptiness of losing my best friend has been very difficult to deal with. I'm so sad he wouldn't do the work to change and stop cheating. I miss you and I hope you find a better fit for you ❤️

no words can describe what im feeling right now. im slowly going insane and i still seek your comfort even though i am this way because of you. it seriously hurts i miss you like crazy. i hope things will go back to how they were.

Wrecked

We were together 4.5 years, got married and 3 months later he wants to get annulled. I’m a wreck came out of nowhere. Now wants to date other people and remain friends