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How do I move on
I have been with my ex bf since 2018. We had a really inconsistent on and off relationship. He cheated on me twice. I guess the first time I returned was because I really thought he had changed. He then went on to marry someone else. My heart was really broken. His marriage did not last long and he got divorced. During the divorce proceedings he came back to me asking for forgiveness. I said no even though I loved him. In one week time I saw him with someone else. I mean it really broke my heart how people use you for their benefit
Venting
She was my first girlfriend, first one I felt comfortable with to explore and even show the world too. I don’t think she realized the risk I took alone with just letting her inside with my vulnerability in that area . Simply just being hurt before coming out of a toxic relationship previously. I thought I healed from , however I learned she helped trigger alot of those old wounds as well as I allowed her too and myself . I can’t believe how foolish I was for love from her and the things I allowed . Things Ik others wouldn’t even had room to do. Some how I kept trying and searching because if I seen the good in her . In what we had 2 days no contact and I doubt we ever talk again and I’m learning to be okay with that . I refused too let another person hurt me again .
do i move on and heal, or heal and hope that he will return
my boyfriend has been struggling with depression for a few months now. he’s been in inpatient hospitals twice already and he just recently got out of the last one. when he came back, he was acting different. once we finally called to talk about it, he told me that this was the last time i would be able to talk to him until i don’t know when. he told me that he’s getting his phone taken so that he can start healing and taking time for himself, and that he’ll possibly go to a residential hospital for maybe a few months where i won’t be able to talk to him. the last time we talked he told me how much he loved me and said that he’ll never forget me, and to not forget him, along with a few voice notes for me to listen to. so i don’t know if i should just leave him in this year and move on, or heal during this time and have faith that he’ll come back to me. the only thing upsetting me is that he won’t come back like he said he would and will just leave me when he gets back.
Help
I want to speak to my ex boyfriend so badly. I really do, God I hate myself for being so pathetic for still wanting to be with him. I hate how people tell me this is normal and it pass but I don’t think it will… I truly don’t think so… I just want him so badly but I’m scared at the same time I’m just so scared and I don’t know what to do anymore. It’s been months. I hate myself, I hate myself. He is always, always on my mind.
Need advice
I need help on this situation me and my ex have been on and off since July 2024 due to distance we live an hour and 30 mins away from each other and we are both still are in high school but we always circle back to each other every couple months and like we can’t leave each other alone and this recent time when we were dating we were able to see each other alot more and sometimes we would just meet in the middle at places and see each other for a couple of hours because gas is expensive to be driving 3 hours there and back when we could make it like 2 hours by meeting in the middle but his dad doesn’t like that and will say things to him about it how it’s not a real relationship if we can’t see each other all the time and cause we have to meet places sometimes and besides that he’s just not a good dad but it was draining my ex bf now to hear it from him and others so we decided to break up but we are still in contact idek like we will text and then go no contact and it’s like he truly makes me extremely happy and I love him and ik he loves me to but we both graduate soon should I just deal with it for a little longer or should I try to move on but I’ve dated other guys and no one has made me feel the way he has so please just help me and give me advice it can be brutal
I broke up with my bf
We only dated for 3 months but I loved him so much. We were perfect together. Both our families loved each other. One night we were on the phone and we weren’t getting along and he said “there’s a 50/50 chance I break up with you tn” (there was a little bit of build up from previous weeks) and then he said “im sure one of your exes will date you” and I just said okay I think we should not do this anymore. He told me he has been having family issues when I told him today that I missed him and I would be better for him. What do you think the chances are we get back together.
Worried I lost my soulmate
I only dated my ex for 5-6 months. He was genuinely the best thing that ever happened to me. I was his first girlfriend and he was my first boyfriend. We spent the summer together, went to cute beaches, bought each other gifts that reminded us of each other. He broke up with me because he said he mentally can’t be in a relationship and give me what I deserve. He looks so much happier now that he’s single. I miss him every day and cry every night because every part of me misses him. It’s been 3 months and I just don’t know how to live without him. I’m in college and everyone keeps saying I have time to find my husband but I only want him. I could use some advice on getting over that first heartbreak.
Forbidden love
Our relationship were forbidden. I’m his student, he’s married. I knew that. Just before our breakup he told he had a daughter with his wife. Later his wife found out about me after checking his phone. Soon after that he told me he wouldn’t be able to leave his family. They decided to give their marriage a second chance. Now they’re together, but I’m all alone after all he said and did. After everything that was between us. I’m an awful person. But I love him so much.
Leaving when in love
I love him a lot but I had to let go for the way he treats me and my daughter .
Confused seeking advice
We were dating for 4 yrs and got married 4 months ago. We always had fights but after we got married every fight escalated to extreme. I was called bitch, cont, go die. Followed by saying he wants divorce. Than after storm passed he would say he didn’t mean the divorce. He said it’s my fault cause fights and when he gets that pissed and hurt he wanted to hurt me. I said over and over again don’t say divorce unless you mean it. Last fight on thanks giving, he went to my friend husband and said this is not what he signed up for and 1 week after getting married he has been thinking about divorce. After few days I confronted him very calmly and he denied that he mentioned divorce. I asked him if he really wants it tell me so I won’t be cut by surprise. He left for business trip and I ran to his best friend and I found out that he called him as well sounding upset and desperate not knowing what to do with the marriage. After his friend check on him few days later he text him things are ok now. I m torn feeling unsafe in this relationship and being away for a week I m think maybe I should follow his recommendation and go ahead and file. I don’t know if he is uusing d as a manipulation or he wants it
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