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Devastated
Hi feel horrendous. I ended things with him even though every bone in my body didn’t want to, and there felt like something was missing and idk what😭 and now I feel so heartbroken and just want to be with him, but I know I need to give it time as it’s only been 2 days
idk
It's been a little over two months since he broke up with me and he already has a new girlfriend. Our year meant nothing to him. I feel terrible.
Need advice
Today it's been 36 days since my first love broke up with me and a week since he finally said he couldn't love me anymore. I can't believe it, even in March he couldn't even describe how much he loves me. I don't know what's wrong with me and what has changed over these few months that he can't even love me anymore. I can't forget about him even if I want to, I always have the impression that he'll come back and I don't know if it's because after breaking up he spoke to me a few times to try again (each time he changed his mind after a few Days) or not for no reason and our paths will connect, I just have the impression that our souls are connected. I would like to hate him for what he did after the breakup, but I can't because I love him. I don't know what to do.
First Love
A month ago my first true love broke up with me because he lost his feelings. We were together for almost a year. Throughout this month he wrote to me several times to try again, I wanted to, but he changed his mind after a while. Yesterday he wrote that he is already quite burned out. I don't know what to do, he was everything to me and I hoped we would spend our whole lives together. I still love him very much and he knows it. I don't want anyone else and I can't even imagine it. I really hope that one day we will find our way to each other and try again.
Help
Why tf are they all posting all of the sudden, pictures everyday? In our 2 years relationship he never posted, why are they doing that? He’s a man btw
Profound sadness and sense of loss over physical intimacy
How do people get over the loss of physical intimacy? That is honestly the biggest regret and sadness for me, because that affection and physical touch were the only moments where she was genuinely kind and when I felt connected to her. It feels like I have lost a one-of-kind partner in that regard.
I don’t really have any resources because I’ve only been sep
I don’t really have any resources because I’ve only been separated from my ex for 2 days but I need feedback and support so here’s a picture of a cute cat. I guess I’ll start by saying the break up was her idea but I am the reason it happened. Me and my ex were only together for 4 months but I those four months I felt real genuine love for the first time. It was amazing but I’ve got a lot of mental health issues caused by trauma among other things which makes it impossible for me to love myself therefore it made it impossible for me to love her in a healthy way. I never laid a hand on her and always respected her to my fullest ability and tried my absolute best to treat her right I’m just not at a place where I can do that right now. I was however emotionally abusive and manipulative because that’s what I was raised around. I never intended to be or tried to be it was just a subconscious thing that I couldn’t control because it showed in the ways I reacted to things. I was staying with her up and her grandparents until the break up. I’m only really posting this to see if there is anything I can do to be better in the future or get some support.
This stings but as soon as I saw this, I felt like I found t
This stings but as soon as I saw this, I felt like I found the answer. So much guilt, hurt, anger, confusion, resentment, everything regarding my recent ex. End of a 6-7 year relationship. And I felt like maybe at one point in the past they represented this. Total wish fulfillment. Now, I can’t imagine or see them feeling this way toward me anymore. I miss them but not them from now. From back then even though there were still problems. I don’t know.
My ex told me she started seeing someone new, she didn’t or
My ex told me she started seeing someone new, she didn’t or couldn’t tell me. She also told me at this point she feels she is dating the wrong person. Also that she’s conflicted and finds it hard to respond my anxious energy. She thinks it’s our attachment and she’s more avoidant. I asked her if she was happy and she said that she didn’t know. The only thing I can do is focus on myself.
My attachment style is anxious preoccupied with some secure
My attachment style is anxious preoccupied with some secure traits. My ex was secure but had dismissive avoidant traits. After the loss of his father, he became more dismissive avoidant and had a bit of anxiousness too. This video is sort of helping me understand how he’s going through the breakup and giving me some solace in the fact that since we ended so amicably that I’m hoping he takes the time for himself to become better and gain that sense of security again.
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