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Confusion

I broke up with the guy I thought I’d marry. We were on and off for about a year and a half. He was very immature but I accepted who he was and tried to help grow together so we can build a future. He always said he would change for me so we can achieve our goals. I did my best to comfort him and understand him but he took advantage of the facts that I cared. He Would make me go through the same issues over and over again. An issue bad enough for me to be unhappy and not bad enough for me to leave. I’d break up with him and go back hoping he actually changed this time but never did. I loved him but I don’t think it can work and it breaks my soul knowing I want him to be better but he can’t be for me.

It’s been 30 days no contact

I’ve been fighting to not call him after going no contact for 30 days now. He ended things with me after nearly 2 years and after we broke up I’ve always been the one contacting him. He has said mean things post break up that hurts so much. We were each others first love and he made sure to let me know that I’m his first love but not his forever. He says we needed to break up because we are too different in lifestyle, communication style, and love languages. He seems so checked out already and never has he tried fighting for us/me. He even told me I can’t be the only one fighting. It hurts so much. We’ve done so much already together. Cared for each other when we got sick, consoled one another when we were having family issues, we have traveled together both locally and internationally. We’ve met each other‘s parents, and we’ve talked about a future together. None of that was enough to make him hold onto us ? Even in the discussion of contacting me post break up he says even when he has the urge, he’ll reach out to friends instead . And the chances of us healing and getting back in the future to him is unlikely . It hurts so much because he told me I was the love of his life. He said our love was unwavering. How could he be so cold now? Even tho he claims he’ll never, do you see a possibility of him reaching out? Is it not advisable to contact him after 30 days no contact because it’ll be me reaching out again? People say exes always reach out eventually is that true?I trusted him with all my heart. He was the last person who was suppose to hurt me. How could he be this cold even to someone he once loved. I don’t understand. I still love him and wish he’d change his mind.

I want to stop feeling like this

He broke up with me two weeks ago and instantly started talking with somebody else. They went to hoco together like three days ago and my friends were telling me they were being freaky the whole time and they were with eachother the whole night and then after the dance ended he blocked me on everything and idk why I still love him and miss him and I hate myself for that. I also hate myself for literly texting him on fucking life 360 a couple hours ago practically begging for him to give me the reason why he blocked me but ofc he jus left me on seen with no response and it hurts cause I just want a reason. I wish my brain just never worked cause now I'm having heartache again and it's killing me. Why do I care so much for somone who could give less of a fuck about me :/ how can I get over him when my mind literly thinks about him 24/7

first ever breakup

I just got broken up with yesterday and I feel my world crushed. I’m a freshmen and I’ve been with this boy for 6 months. That may not seem like alot but he was my first everything he was best friend and honestly my only friend. I gave my all to him and I feel so alone now. He told me he was leaving me for his mental health , idk if I believe that I don’t know how people survive breakups I don’t feel alive and I can’t stop feeling nauseous idk what to do with myself and I’m having thoughts I promised myself I’d never have. I really didn’t understand how people can be so obsessed over their ex but now I get it. I’m seeking advice and older sisters to help me get through this🫤

Idk what to feel

I recently got dumped and i didn’t take it well, this pass month i notice he was different acting different timed me on how long we can hold each other and kiss each other which he claimed it was for his religion and thats why. Still supper weird and random we did that the whole time dating with no timer, but my relationship wasnt the greatest entertained many women also cheated and i stayed thinking i loved this man and he wouldn’t ever break up with me and he did even though I let him do whatever, I just really wanted him to stay even though ik it not the best for me I just hope to get through this.

Midlife crisis

Curious if any of you have survived your spouses midlife crisis. How did you come out on the other side? How long did it last? What were the signs and symptoms. Did you separate during this time. Was there infidelity? Did you communicate during the crisis?

Together after breakup

I am curious to read your experiences on getting back together after breakup? Did it work out at the end? If not, do you know why? How much time is needed between breakup and getting back together? What did you do differently the second time around to make it work? How to deal with forgiveness or trust issues? All that you know. Thank you!

Idk

I’m hurt, like truly but today is his birthday idk if I should wish him cause he did the same for me, but after everything that went down idk if it’s worth it. I don’t think I should have any sort of contact with him until I am fully healed but a part of me really wants to wish him happy birthday

Do men ever reconcile with their wife after they decided on a separation/divorce?

Marriage ended

My husband of almost 15 years decided after an interaction we had how I didn’t feel emotional connection or acknowledgement from him lately. He got defensive that I approached him with these feelings which led to an argument of he has been unhappy for the last 5 years and worries about his mental health and would like a separation. I tried to tell him I didn’t want the separation and I felt our relationship and our daughter was worth doing everything possible to turn this around. He has continued with wanting the separation with his plan to lead to a divorce and moves out on October 1st. I struggle because the two reasons he gave I can not control or “fix” I have for the last 2 months been working on myself - quit drinking, managing my emotions reflecting and working on the things that I did that contributed to his feelings in hopes to save it. However I feel in his mind because he has so much support in his life that have gone the divorce route that this he sees as a better option. He is keeping “peace” while we live under the same roof but coming and going as he pleases without being honest with me or my daughter what/where he is going. Part of me thinks things will be better for me when he moves out because maybe I will start to feel relief. But the other part feels I have lost him for good when that day comes. I just feel sad because if he was so unhappy in our marriage and worried about his mental health he would reach out for help. I can make him be happy. I can’t make him want to seek help. But I thought I would have been worth the effort. I feel like I am causing myself more damage emotionally to be hopeful of a reconnection and recommitment after time apart when he makes it clear he wants this separation and divorce. I have to give it to him because I can’t change the way he feels.