Confusion

I broke up with the guy I thought I’d marry. We were on and off for about a year and a half. He was very immature but I accepted who he was and tried to help grow together so we can build a future. He always said he would change for me so we can achieve our goals. I did my best to comfort him and understand him but he took advantage of the facts that I cared. He Would make me go through the same issues over and over again. An issue bad enough for me to be unhappy and not bad enough for me to leave. I’d break up with him and go back hoping he actually changed this time but never did. I loved him but I don’t think it can work and it breaks my soul knowing I want him to be better but he can’t be for me.

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hospitablerewardexfq19mo ago

The same happened to me recently. I learned that short term change is a form of manipulation to get you to change your mind about leaving/breaking up. Then when you’re back, the manipulator tends to revert back because they know you forgave them once so why wouldn’t you again. The fact that that the issues make you unhappy but they’re not bad enough to leave is him testing your boundaries to see what he can get away with. This is very common in narcissistic behavior. You said he is immature, did you mean emotionally? This is very similar to my situation where the person was an avoidant narcissist. Have you noticed any other similarities between your partner and an “avoidant narcissist”?

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trimrecover0gf19mo ago

I feel like I was the boyfriend in this situation and I’m sorry about how you feel. I feel empty because she said she was fed up but I really have changed but I guess it was too late

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