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New Breakup
The breakup is fresh, brand new just out the pack we were just together saturday by wednesday (today) I been trying to delete his face. I don’t know what to do I gave that boy everything and it feels like when it ended he took a piece of me with him I feel so empty all I do is cry when I wakeup I cry when I go to sleep I cry during the middle of the day I cry. I had lost so many people getting wrapped up in giving him all my time I just want to get over this and get myself back. I know healing from this one will take me a lot of time but im tired of feeling like this im exhausted im at my lowest and I just want to be healed already in trying to get back on my feet but I can barley get myself up in the day these past couple days ive only been getting up to use the bathroom. I gained a eating disorder, trust issues and depression from the arms im supposed to feel safest in can somebody just tell me how to stop feeling this way.
Feeling Hurt and Sand
Girl I’ve known for 3 years, dated for 2 months I broke things off with her. It wasn’t healthy for me to stay in it… Twice over the course of our friendship, I had asked her out. She said no. Then about a month before we started dating, I told her I had strong feelings for her, and that I couldn’t continue to be friends unless there was something more between us. I stopped hanging out and talking to her at that point. 3 weeks later, she approached me and said “I know we’ve talked about dating but we’ve never done it. Why don’t we try? If you asked me out again, I might not say no this time…” So I asked her out, she said yes. We went on about 8-10 separate dates in the next three weeks. She then asked if we could go official (I originally left that ball in her court because she finds commitment scary). And that was that. Two months of lots of laughter and fun, some conflict and resolution….but we had a very healthy level of open communication. Lots of affection, cute dates, making out, the usual…but over time I started to realize that I was really the only one initiating. She would enjoy all the dates and affection I’d give, but I really wasn’t receiving much effort or time from her side unless I initiated first. She only ever wanted to have dates at her place, or with her friends…and that was it. Not much effort in trying to be interested in me or my hobbies, or family. Then, there was 1.5 weeks where all affection stopped. She didn’t want me around, didn’t want me touching her, didn’t wish me good morning anymore. I felt horrible. I tried figuring out what had happened, and by the end of that week and a half, I put my foot down. I told her that her behavior needed to change, that my needs were not being met, or I was done. She said things weren’t going to change, that she wasn’t physically attracted to me….she never was, and that was causing her lack of attraction and affection towards me. So we called it quits. That’s the end of the relationship. The next morning, she calls me bright and early (she isn’t a morning person), and asks me for a second chance. She said she made a huge mistake with me, and that she’d like another 6-8 weeks (she was going on vacation after that) to change her behavior and try hard to make it up to me. My gut said no, but I wanted to give her a chance, so I said okay. We lasted another 2-3 weeks after that. It only got worse, not better. Then we had a talk, and we were both done. She wanted to stay friends with me…said she didn’t want to lose my friendship, just didn’t want all the romance. I said no. And we’ve been on no-contact ever since. It’s been 2 weeks now. I feel a mix of emotions. On the one hand, I feel relieved I’m no longer in that mess. On the other, I’m very lonely and I miss the companionship and openness. She’s also in two of my major friend groups. I can’t tolerate seeing her right now. So I’ve been unable to see my friends as well.
He accused me of cheating
I grabbed the condoms quickly from his hands which let him to think something was up, then he counted and looked at the condoms saying they were not the condoms he bought and they were different condoms. He said I have been sleeping with other men. We broke up after this
Confused
My fiancé broke up with me 3 days ago… we were together for 8 years, through high school and such. I thought everything was going great, we had a few concerns here and there but everything was ok. He started a new medication and he started to change, he smoked weed every day morning to night (has for about a year now) but he started to not make sense and started saying everyone was manipulating him and then he had a newfound spiritual connection to god. He also admitted to me that he lied to me our entire relationship and that he’s had a porn addiction the entire time, that he watched porn every day for 8 years. He asked for a month of space and when he reached out 2 weeks in to start talking again i thought it was great and we could start to work on things. When I went to meet him and talk the first thing he asked of me was to run away with him. I had claimed that the space was doing good for me because I was learning about the things that I could do better to treat him better and he told me he needed me now and I told him I wanted to keep the space a little longer. Which I feel guilty for. He texted me a bunch of texts telling me how he felt rejected and then a lot of angry texts. He’s cut off all his family and most friends, and then he yelled at my autistic younger brother. He called me and I told him he crossed a line and he told me he wouldn’t change and continue to stand up for himself. He then claimed we were at different stages in our life and broke up with me. Later that night I went and got all my stuff, when I couldn’t find something I asked him to let me know when he found it and we’ll find a way to get it back to me. He told me he threw it away and everything else, and then told me he never wanted to speak to me ever again. He completely changed in the last 3 months and he’s never been like this before, he has never said or done anything like this and so I’m so confused and in so much pain.
Got cheated on
My boyfriend of 4 years cheated on me. With his CNA I’m an RN and it shows that titles ain’t nothing. I told him to leave the house and he did. Didn’t even hesitate. He packed his bags and left, however he came back 5 minutes later and said do you really want me to leave I’m here, I was strong enough to say yes leave. immediately blocked his number even if we have a daughter and that is only because I need to heal and put myself first for my daughter. It’s been 5 days and he hasn’t tried one way or another to contact her.
Sad
I miss her. I text her earlier today telling her that I wanted a friendship from her if she was open to having one I told her that maybe we could go get food sometime or go shopping and that maybe if she wasn’t open to it right now maybe she will in the future. I genuinely feel lonely. I know that everybody in my life has their family and their significant others. I really wish I didn’t feel lonely. I wish that I had some kind of motivation to go to the store and get necessities or go to the park and take a walk but as much as I want to, I can’t bring myself to do it. I don’t know if she misses me. I know she’s been listening to breakup songs and I know that that doesn’t mean anything. I wish that I never told her to move out because now I feel like I have absolutely no one. I wish I knew if she felt the same as me. I wish she would reply back sometimes because sometimes she does and then sometimes she doesn’t.
Dreams
the last months of our relationship i didnt treat her like a real gf. i couldve done so much differently. she’s now in college and told me she will never come back. no contact for 5 days so far. i keep having dreams about her and waking up with a hole in my chest just wanting to text her. i miss her so badly. it was 4 years and we knew everything about each other.
“Space”?
My bf of 9 months broke up with me on September 26th because he needs to put himself first and needs to focus on his career and future, he’s 19 and graduated this year from highschool. He said right now he needs space but tmr we are seeing eachtoher to just talk and catch up with how we are doing. It really came out of nowhere and I’m so crushed by it. He said he’s coming back for all of me and he left me his 300$ chain with me.
Pain and discomfort
Me and my gf got married before I moved a state away a few days before I left from one state to another even in the court office she kept threatening divorce now that I’m in a whole new state she’s gone completely ghost on me so now I’m just kinda in my head dwelling
The weight of the world
My boyfriend decided he wanted to take a break after our one year anniversary! He became so distant and was very vague on why we were taking a break, he told me that he was needing to take time to gather his thoughts but kept telling me that when he come back from his break he wants to retry and wants to fall in love twice as hard but wants me to keep working on myself, halfway through the break he posted a 5-minute rant hinting towards me on Snapchat and it shot be down so many pegs but I still held out hope! But after two weeks he just called me last night and told me he doesn't wanna restart again and he needs time alone and to be by himself, let alone he's the one that proposed promise rings and asked me if I wanted to move in with him when he goes to graduate school and I told him yes I would, but comes to find out, all that made him stressed and he's making it feel like it was my fault! He ended it on, right person wrong time, he told me he doesn't wanna block each other and he still wants to remain really good friends, he still wants to hangout, text all the time and he doesn't want to get rid of any of my stuff and wants to keep all my love quotes up and he told me in the future he wants to start again because he wants to see us both grow old together! Fyi-(I don't know if this makes a difference but we are a gay couple) Any advice? Would greatly be appreciated because it feels like my emotions are a twister and I can't keep them straight!
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