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Please someone help me…
We had a relationship for almost 4 years and she betrayed me multiple times maybe like 3-4 times, i begged for love and loyalty in return i just had lies , manipulation and emotional even verbal abuse… when i try to move on she comes back begging me to take her back but still lying i tried to forgive her every time and still doing me so dirty… that’s not even half of the story… Please tell me how to move on with the fact that maybe she never loved me, but why she hates me that much? Why she feels its okay for me to cry and not eat everyday, she doesn’t have the courage to tell me truth and keep messing me around… How do i accept that she have him in her bed , have sex with her, she is in love with him, she is hugging and kissing him, she do everything dor her how to i accept that? How to nove on from that . i cant imagine her being happy while im so miserable..
Struggling
My ex boyfriend left me a month ago we were together for 2 years. He left because I couldn’t get my mental health together and would some times say mean stuff when I was drunk. I’ve taken all the blame and apologised but he worked loads and I needed someone there, he’s taken no accountability in it and not heard me out now I’ve had the space to process what happened. I got triggered the other day talking to him and spiralled again. I feel awful I thought he was my soul mate. How do you get over ruining a relationship with the person I love the most? I’m doing the work on myself but I thought he would be here to support me
Together for 2 years, extremely toxic
We were together for two years and it was extremely toxic but I love her with my whole heart and I would do anything for her and to make things right. At the same time i’m much happier without her. This is also my first WLW breakup so someone give me some advice on how to stop wanting to get back with her even though I know i’ll be happier without her.
i miss him so much
my now ex broke up with me 17 days ago every single day since all i’ve wanted to do was lay in bed and cry we had been together for 6 months and the reason he ended things with me is because i was very shy and awkward in person i facetimed him every night and would text him all day long but than when we would be in person i would freeze i hate myself for this because if it wasn’t for how stupid i was we could’ve still been together when we i truly care about someone i get so quiet and i don’t know why i think it’s because im scared there gonna change there mind and not like me anymore. he’s already talking to a new girl and has no care at all the girl is 2 years younger than me my ex was one year younger than me so there only one year about but i just feel like rid already replaces me with some younger girl and i just feel so worthless ands that every complete he’s ever given me was just a leis and that he’s gonna say it all to her now like i can’t even belive i can’t call him mine anymore i want to throw up thinking about how he’s gonna call another girl his girlfriend soon enough every few seconds im checking my phone to see if he has snapped me back or texted me he snaps me every night a few times ms and he keeps sending me mirror pictures his new girl keeps texting me i thought we were friends and she was asking me if i still liked him i thought she was asking as a friend so i said yes now i found out that they liked eachotwr and she was trying to find out to see if he liked her not because she cared about me so i also feel betrayed this is the longest relationship i’ve ever had and i really thought we were gonna last i love every single thing about him and i don’t know how to move on i need help
Met my ex in rehab
He was my best friend and my support in all aspects of my life. We lived together for almost 2 years. I lost my job a month ago and got a new job that starts Feb 3. He told me he could take care of things so I could get back on my feet but he completely abandoned me. He works 2 jobs and worked longer hours and left me home alone to deal with myself. There was no support and I called him last night and he told me, everything was my fault. I was going through an emotional time switching jobs and he kicked me out before I could start. The job I took was closer to my house and now I can’t do it because I am too far away. I am financially struggling, my things are still at his place and I am so scared to get them. I just want my best friend back.
devastated
Recently just got broken up with after 2.5 years. we had a big fight and that was it for him. he was my best friend and boyfriend all in one so i’m really struggling. every morning i wake up with this horrible dread and realization that it’s not a dream. and i fluctuate between feeling fine and actually wanting to die. idk how to get through this
Heartbroken
The absolute love of my life, father of my children left me and now has a new relationship. My soul hurts, I’m angry, sad, jealous, and every other feeling there is. I don’t know what to do? I want him back but don’t know where to start
Sad
He ended things with me like a month and half ago. It has been extremely hard for me and I just haven’t been able to move past it. He was my best friend, my everything. He made me so happy and ever since the breakup I try to keep up with no contact but every other week I end up breaking it. I can just sense that now he’s getting really frustrated and annoyed. He’s never said it but he’s never been this cold with me. But he’s so unaffected without me. I just feel that my absence doesn’t bother him but his absence KILLS me. Like how can someone be so okay. Idk how to not break no contact and move on.
I’m lost without her
A girl who I dated for 3 months, had an amazing time with, went away with me for my birthday and exchanged Christmas presents with decided to let me go on NYE by text because she wanted to focus on her son after he was struggling with the previous breakup. I swore at her by text that same evening when I was drunk and upset because I was hurting and now I’ve been blocked for 11 days with no contact. Does she hate me now? I want to write her a letter next week to explain that I don’t deal with rejection well because of my adoption. I just want her to know I was angry. Even if she doesn’t unblock me I want her to know I still care :(
Messing with my head?
We split after a really bad argument, I asked him to drive me to the airport 5 hours earlier than I had to be there, I got out the car didn’t say a word. Instantly regretted it, begged him to drive the 20 minutes back so we could fix things. He didn’t. Horrible messages exchanged between us both after that. Then when things had calmed down-He offered to help me start a new life abroad where he lives with his help as a friend & me staying with him, he changed his mind within 24 hours and I’m no longer welcome. He still messages me good morning and good night every day and checks in at least once throughout. But as ‘friends’ but still hasn’t put the offer of help back on the table. He’s started calling me by name instead of the usual ‘babe’ but says things like he needs me to know he’s thinking about me and my new profile pic is beautiful, he hopes I’m ok, have a good day all that kind of stuff. Is he just keeping me dangling or is he confused and going to change his mind? I’m soooo confused. Any thoughts gratefully received! x
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