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Newly broken up with
It’s been 2 weeks since our breakup, we haven’t seen or communicated with each other and the sucky part is that he lives literally around the block from me. How is it easy for a guy to be okay and move on with his life? While I’m hurting and missing him so much!
Cutting off
I’m fighting cancer which was diagnosed 3 months later after our breakup which I initiated, even though I loved him and still do. I was alone in a foreign country being a refugee and my ex was the only close person so I let him know. I decided to go back home for treatment and operation, everything went well, still waiting for MRI before radiotherapy, but decided to go back to UK for further treatment. He wasn’t supportive during this extremely difficult period of my life, only checked in occasionally. Now he wants to pick me up from airport. I don’t want to hurt him as I truly care for him, don’t want to block him as it’s childish, but don’t really want him in my life either a friend or partner, as he proved once more his indecision and unreliability.
Drunk text my ex
Hello, I drink trxt my ex last night some very nasty messages, he has now blocked me. We were together for 5 years and loved together for 3. Please help me overcome the anxiety it has caused.
I don’t know what to do
Hey everyone me and my ex got together back on April 14,2023 he ended things on February 3 of this year I don’t know how to think for right now. When we were having a very long talk once he dumped me he told me he needs to fix himself not ready to commit wants to be free meet a bunch of people travel but still wants me as a friend. We lived in two places together one was his dads and the second our place together with another couple but they broke up the end of last year. It’s so confusing because he came up with our marriage timeline 3 years promise ring 5 years wedding ring and he dumped me 11 days before our 1 year 10 months which was gonna be on Valentine’s Day. It’s so hard because he still tells me he loves me and we said we would both heal and we wouldn’t get into another relationship until we try again. It’s so confusing because I treated him so good compared to all his other exs and I’m always there for him but he can’t just stay with me and heal together. I’m so scared for whatever can happen I can’t see him get into another relationship which he says he won’t he can’t be in a relationship at all but I’m so scared. Today is kinda started the no contacts and I just wanna talk to him so bad but he says I need to distance because with how hard I’ve been taking it and trying to get him back he says I’m pushing him away and it’s annoying him. I’ve never been alone I’m really scared to be. I wanna to be better independently but I’m scared if I back off too much there will never be a possibility for us again. Does anyone have any advice? I’m so lost and I just want my sweet boy back in my eyes we are soulmates and the only dude I can’t think about and want a future with. I just can’t believe how you can love someone and cry when you leave them but so hard to get them back I told him I would wait while getting myself back but he tells me he won’t be dating for a while which I’m scared for
Addiction.
I split up with my partner of almost 2 years last week. He is an alcoholic and I have recently discovered, a porn addiction. It has destroyed my self confidence thinking he just wasn’t interested in me (he would only initiate sex when he’d had a drink) and gradually became more switched off and disconnected emotionally and physically. I know this is the right decision for me but it doesn’t make it any easier. I am grieving the nice moments, the life we planned together and the person who I thought he was going to be. It is so painful right now. Anyone have any words of wisdom?
Am I wrong?
Hey, I’m a July cancer, kinda emotionally detached so hard for me to communicate my emotions. I feel I have a pure heart and soul because I always try and see the good in people and try to understand everyone’s point of view. I feel I’m a good listener, good at giving advice but not always listening to it myself. My breakup was pretty messy. It started out somewhat mutual but I think I just wanted him to be happy so I let him go even tho I still loved him. Then shortly after I started receiving hateful messages from his friends and he didn’t defend me in the slightest. Weird? Then it came to me going back to our apartment to get my belongings. He had his 2 friends and one of their girlfriends at my apartment waiting for me to get back to verbally harassing me and my family and they wouldn’t leave MY apartment and kept talking about me the whole time I was packing up my stuff. My ex didn’t say a single word the whole time. He just let his friends talk for him and say all this false shit about me and he sat there 2ft away from me and looked down and couldn’t even look at me because he knows he did so wrong. That’s where it left off and I’ve been no contact since. Am I valid for crashing out on his friends? Am I valid for hating him or am i crazy lol
How do you get off the Couch?
It was a 5 year relationship so my nervous system is completely attached to him. How do you get the motivation and energy to want to do something… anything ? I feel like all I want to do is hide.
Still living together
Broke up with my ex two weeks ago now, he left me as he realised he saw me as a room-mate and not romantically which came as a total shock How am I supposed to not blame myself? My actions? He says he’s bored and just needs something new, but how do I not compare myself? Everytime I see him on his phone my brain immediately feels betrayed.
Girls support and friends
Hello everyone! I was broken up with at the start of November and when he left I realised I had no friends. The past few months have been the darkest and scariest months of my life and I have been leaning on my family very heavily. But some times you just want some girls. Would anyone be interested in becoming friends or maybe even being added to a group chat of some sort? We can help each other and be a bit of emotional support for each other xx
I broke up with him but my heart hurts so badly
We had been together for nearly 2 years and I loved him we lived together and have a cat. He never cheated physically but emotionally was abusive and cheated online he said he didn’t like kissing or more really so we didn’t have a relationship that made me feel secure or loved but I still want him in my life and I feel like my heart has been ripped out even though I did it and know it’s for the best. Advice please ♥️
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