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Struggling need help
Today we hit 3 months after officially breaking up. He was the one who ended things brutally and unexpectedly, and was so harsh on me. My reaction to the emotional abuse was blocking him immediately on all social platforms. I’m struggling to move on though, I still wait for him to come back, I still look at his social media from other accounts. He has a business account that I unfollowed but I keep looking at the chat status if he gets online or something because it comforts me that he might contact me through it, or just the idea that he might be stalking my social media i guess. I know this is bad, and it’s not helping, i genuinely want to move on, it was a toxic relationship with a narcissist. It will take me days to write down all the harmful things he said to me, and the fact that he was never an apologetic person. I know I shouldn’t care, but why do I care??? It hurts me so much that I care, And why am I waiting for someone who hurt me deeply and had me walk on eggshells for 2.5 years? Only to leave me after all the promises. This is so painful, I need help and advice. How can I get him out of my mind😭😭😭😭
First time poster - separated
We just maybe temporarily separated after a horrible couple of months where work and mental health collided. We are taking some time apart but it feels so hard to deal with the sadness - what tips does anyone have? I’m a real people pleaser so the idea of his sadness makes me feel guilty
Did I do the right thing by breaking it off?
Me and him have been dating for about 3 months but we talked for 3 months before that. We are the type where we constantly argue like every weekend. Some of our fights have been about social media and wanting to be posted, seeing each other (we are 2 1/2 hours away but just very busy), and other things. At one point I tried to break it off because we argued so much and they were intense and I just didn’t feel heard. He would call me immature in arguments or got really mad because I accidentally woke him up at 8 PM not realizing he was awake (he works 3rd shift but sometimes he is awake) Granted I will say he did repair after he calmed down and he would listen and apologize and make things better. We decided to try to make it work. In between that week we got into an argument and he made a promise not to talk to any of the girls he has talked to in his past. Two weeks go by and I am at his apartment. I was in the bathroom with his phone and I decided to look (I know this is wrong) but I saw he talked to a girl I knew he had hooked up with in the past about our problems around the time we fought and she was messaging him on Monday (the Monday after the promise was made). He saw me looking and then we argued again. He said she has a boyfriend and had just confided in him. He asked to go through my phone and saw messages between me and my girl best friend around the same time. My friend had said she knows 3 single guys and mentioned telling a guy I used to have a crush on from a far that I used to. He saw that, broke up with me, and kicked me out. He has been trying to fight by saying he will change and wants to make this work and I can go through his phone whenever I want. He said he will do anything and he went through his phone and deleted and blocked them. Ultimately I decided to end it though because the thought of them talking or him talking to anyone else I didn’t know about would linger. Did I do the right thing? Should I have given it another chance? Is it equal like he said that we both hurt each other and I should have given him more grace?
I had to end things for good and I don’t feel good
He and I were together for 3 straight years and he met all of my family and I was so sure I’d be married to him and then I kept finding pictures of celebrities, girls I know in his phone. This clearly upset me and hurt me because he had a whole girlfriend and still wanted or was showing he wanted more. I am struggling to find my own peace as I have depended on him for 3 years and then having to end things against my will. If anybody has advice please 🙏🏽
Suffering Severe denial
relationship of 4 years and she broke up with me over text because she says we’re very different and arent meant but deep down i knew we werent that different and we were compatible she had mentioned this a lot before and i had tried and tried and tried to fix it and be what she wanted but i guess it never worked now im stuck in a state of denial where throughout the day i feel ok bc i think shes still there. I feel like shes still there but we arent texting because shes just at work, then I realize thats not the case and i struggle greatly please anyone if you can help me I need help
Will he come back?
We had an argument over something I didn’t think could end everything. I’ve tried fixing it all week he wouldn’t reply or respond once a day, today I figured I had enough trying to fix everything it wasn’t something worth ending things. But I wonder if now he’ll realise that it’s the end now or even want to try again
Do women come back?
She and I shared a wonderful 3+ years together. We spent the bulk of course college lives together, despite going to schools 2 hours apart. There was no infidelity, abuse, manipulation, etc. We recently moved back to our home town, her starting her nursing job and me finishing school online while working part time. I was not in a good spot mentally during our time together, and often struggled to meet her needs and expectations, for I wasn’t meeting my own. She broke up with me, insisting she still loved me but had fallen out of love with me. She said my lack of self-care and motivation ended up lushing her away, as we are in a transitional period in our lives. I have since indulged in everything she always wanted me to do for myself, and I am making great progress as an individual. I can’t help but think it’s possible to rekindle, for what we shared was incredible. Am I delusional?
Our 7 months
Today would’ve been our seven months but the thing is he’s probably hanging out with his new girl who he started hanging out with in public 6 days after the breakup. It hurts and I feel betrayed
Do men come back? Or regret breaking up?
Been almost 80 days of break up, i wonder everyday if he will ever text me again? He is the dumper. He stayed with me for 2.5 years and at the end told me he was never happy with me. It was shocking, he didn’t even apologize for the hurt he caused and blamed me for everything. He was hesitant about the break up though and told me he’s afraid to regret his decision. I still wonder if he will ever regret this and come back? I blocked him two months ago, but am hurting for everyday. I miss him, but also hate him, but want him to message me 😩 will he ever come back?
Toxic af
I met this guy over a year and a half ago, charming, sweet, literally everything I had wanted in a man. But he kept us from social media which didn’t bother me, I’m not a big user but turns out it was because he had a girlfriend. Now this guy not only lied about her, he admitted to using her for his own selfish gain. I only found all this out when I told him I was pregnant, he then confessed and also confessed to sleeping with other girls too, but these girls knew he had a partner. He went from planning our future, planning our family to telling me he didn’t love me but wanted me to have a baby. Like no, I wanted a family and you’ve ruined my perception of love and relationships and ruined my hopes of a family. How do I honestly move forward from this?
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