Toxic af

I met this guy over a year and a half ago, charming, sweet, literally everything I had wanted in a man. But he kept us from social media which didn’t bother me, I’m not a big user but turns out it was because he had a girlfriend. Now this guy not only lied about her, he admitted to using her for his own selfish gain. I only found all this out when I told him I was pregnant, he then confessed and also confessed to sleeping with other girls too, but these girls knew he had a partner. He went from planning our future, planning our family to telling me he didn’t love me but wanted me to have a baby. Like no, I wanted a family and you’ve ruined my perception of love and relationships and ruined my hopes of a family. How do I honestly move forward from this?

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treasuredgasq08mo ago

Being manipulated into being in love and having a child come from it is a hard pill to swallow. We can only act on what we know. If someone is gonna lie and manipulate until they have gained access to us it’s no fault of ours. You asked how do you move on. All we can do is take it day by day. I truly believe children are a blessing and I under being robbed of your chance to provide a true family to you beloved child. He will reap all he has sowed. Having a child is already hard but having one by someone who has hurt you deeply is an emotional rollercoaster. My advice is to set boundaries now. He may see the child as forever aces to you and he doesn’t deserve that access.

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treasuredgasq08mo ago

He may use your longing for family for temporary drop ins for family time. Set the boundaries and accept the truth so you are not easily persuaded if he dangles the possibility of reconciliation. He lied from day one and I wouldn’t recover a relationship that never was bc it was always built on lies and him having the upper hand being the only one with all the knowledge of his GF and other flings while you knew nothing and gave him a true reflection of love. I hope his unworthiness doesn’t permanently warp your idea of love. We deserve love, loud, unashamed and reciprocated. Wishing you all the best

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