Did I do the right thing by breaking it off?
Me and him have been dating for about 3 months but we talked for 3 months before that. We are the type where we constantly argue like every weekend. Some of our fights have been about social media and wanting to be posted, seeing each other (we are 2 1/2 hours away but just very busy), and other things. At one point I tried to break it off because we argued so much and they were intense and I just didn’t feel heard. He would call me immature in arguments or got really mad because I accidentally woke him up at 8 PM not realizing he was awake (he works 3rd shift but sometimes he is awake) Granted I will say he did repair after he calmed down and he would listen and apologize and make things better. We decided to try to make it work. In between that week we got into an argument and he made a promise not to talk to any of the girls he has talked to in his past. Two weeks go by and I am at his apartment. I was in the bathroom with his phone and I decided to look (I know this is wrong) but I saw he talked to a girl I knew he had hooked up with in the past about our problems around the time we fought and she was messaging him on Monday (the Monday after the promise was made). He saw me looking and then we argued again. He said she has a boyfriend and had just confided in him. He asked to go through my phone and saw messages between me and my girl best friend around the same time. My friend had said she knows 3 single guys and mentioned telling a guy I used to have a crush on from a far that I used to. He saw that, broke up with me, and kicked me out. He has been trying to fight by saying he will change and wants to make this work and I can go through his phone whenever I want. He said he will do anything and he went through his phone and deleted and blocked them. Ultimately I decided to end it though because the thought of them talking or him talking to anyone else I didn’t know about would linger. Did I do the right thing? Should I have given it another chance? Is it equal like he said that we both hurt each other and I should have given him more grace?