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I am in such a depressive state and want to lean on him and text/call him but I know that is desperate and I don't want to do that. Can someone help me cope with this?
Sadness
After 1 year and 4 months my gf broke up with me. Our relationship has always been bad, since the very beginning. There was mental and physical abuse and also cheating. I know all these things may seem awful but I really believe things could be different. She’s a good person but she doesn’t know how to express herself the right way. I think she acts out because she’s struggling and that’s an easy option for her. I know that things can be better I’ve put so much energy and effort into our relationship and towards the end of it I asked her what effort has she put in this and she got upset and said she can’t answer that. (because she hasn’t put in effort) I miss her so much already, I know we have the potential to be better so what do I do?
Codependency
My bestfriend of 3 years and I broke up. It wasn't a closed door but we shared friends and we were each others everything for so long. I'm realizing how codependent I was on him for so so long and I want him back but I know that's not right because I need to go on a self love journey. I need to be without him. We are going to talk today ab things and how to move going forward. I saw him at the bar with some of our friends and he didn't say hi and kept looking at a baseball game. So I am bedridden right now. I feel like shit I left the bar and came home and had a severe panic attack. How do I get through this?
My husband has been cheating
I found out that my husband has been cheating on me with the girl in his office. My heart is broken. We’ve been married for almost 10 years and we have an adorable daughter. I still can’t believe he did this to me. I feel like I’m not good enough. I want a revenge. I want to have an affair too so he may feel the depth of my pain. How can I live my life like this?
What do i do
me and my ex boyfriend were together for 2 years, we still talk but he’s blunt he said he lost feelings for me and doesn’t love me anymore as he kept saying he didn’t want me in his life anymore, didn’t want a relationship right now this and that and some days he would be confusing we would go to sleep together be nice and loving and caring but yesterday I finally said “ you lost me” i pushed him away and sometimes think it’s my fault he left and started losing feelings and being blunt to me but the past week i’ve been crying i woke up started crying thinking about him and needing him , i called him asking if we can sleep together i was crying and told him i miss him then we went sleep 2 days ago but as i said yesterday i text him saying you’ve lost me as i don’t know how to get him back or what else to do. I’ve tried to leave him alone because I’ve tried to do no contact but it’s so hard for me because i love him so much and miss him but this time i’m committed to try it to see if anything will change as he knows i always come back to him either text or call him maybe i need to leave for good to make him realise he’s lost me?? but he’s still got my name as pumpkin ♥️♥️ in his phone and all my pictures
He never missed me
We broke up 4 months ago. The whole month before that he had been distancing himself, taking too long to answer. I had been trying to be understanding and give him space. He stopped saying about love or even responding when I said and stopped using heart emoji, he basically became unemotional. I had been trying to talk or support him but eventually he dumped me over text late at night when I asked if my efforts are reciprocated. he offered to be friends and meet if I need his support but I said that I want to be no contact and we will not be friends but we still should meet to talk like adults and have a closure. he said ok no problem let’s meet and never texted me again. we never met and never spoke ever since. he deleted my photo from his insta page and after 2 months one girl texted me saying that she met him at the dating app. basically he move on really fast and never texted me again. he just ives his life like our 1,5 year relationship meant nothing. what do you think? will he ever regret or miss me?
Just broke up 💔
We were together for almost 3 years and 2 months ago he broke up with me, telling me he doesn’t she me in his future anymore. We decided to try it one more time. To make efforts together, to communicate more often, to be more open to each other but the time pass by during the 2 months, nothing change. He was telling me that he still loves me and that he was happy in the relationship but his actions don’t tell it all. Yesterdag i decided to end it, it was the most painful decision that i made and i am hoping i made the right one. It’s so difficult because he was felling the same thing but waited until i am the one to end this time. Did i made the right decision or should i have try more harder?
What do i do
We dated for almost 9 months everything was amazing and so much more we communicated very well and had a great relationship today he told me that he cant handle it mentally. We have been talking about his mental health for awhile. He is struggling and when he broke up with me today he also started to cry and said how can he love me if he cant love himself im heartbroken his mom has reached out and it was heartbreaking. I dont know what to do I feel as though once he works on himself we will get back together. I also am taking this time to work on myself more and i told him im not moving on or anything. What do i do though help
32 years old and dated for the first time
I dated a woman for 3 months and my feelings for her became stronger over time and I ended up being incredibly emotionally attached. She had told me in the beginning that she had a rough past that affected her feelings of romance and wasn’t sure if she would ever be able for a relationship without taking therapy. But since this was the first time that I felt a woman enjoyed my company I thought I could handle waiting for her without getting too emotionally involved. She just started a new job and had a new apartment with longtime friends that have supported her since her rough past and I felt bad asking for her time. I had to break it off with her because she wasn’t on the same emotional level that I was and I didn’t want my feelings to affect the success of the new things in her life. But I wish we could have worked out because when we were together I had never felt that kind of happiness before.
Still in contact
Although I was the one that hurt her she’s still staying in contact with me. Not sure if I should see that as a sign or if she’s just being nice to me. It’s been 3 months after the break up and I’m trying to win her back. I’m just afraid that I will hurt myself believing there’s still a chance. She said she needs time before giving me another chance.
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