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he won’t stop reaching out
we broke up 9 months ago, it was his decision even tho it should have been mine. he went through a lot of emotional issues, depression, anxiety, bpd, psychosis. i was always there supporting him because we were also best friends for more than 8 years. he made me fall in love with him, just for him to be the worst boyfriend ever. he was never there for me when i needed it, had lots of female friends which he spoke to daily, lots of emotional abuse and gaslighting. he also does cocaine while i don’t do any drugs. i had another relationship a few months ago, but ended up breaking up with him because i could’t get over the previous one. lately this past two months he’s been calling and texting me, and i have agreed to see each other a few times. i know he still loves me but he isn’t emotionally capable of having a healthy relationship and i am totally broken because of that. i can’t accept the fact that we can’t be together and he still does things that hurt me. i keep telling him to stop reaching out to me so i can forget him but he always ends up calling again and i keep falling. please help i don’t know what to do anymore
i don’t know what to do
it's so complicated, in our first month together he wrote to his ex that he still loved her and he told me that himself, now we've been together for almost 3 months but we argue every day. I think we both love each other but our love languages are different and he doesn't try to understand me. We‘ve got into a big fight and we didn’t write each other since 2 days ago
Got dumped -ish
I left my ex because he was so up and down. One day he was like I want to marry you, you are the best then the next day when things went bad he had doubts. And we would break up and get back. He said he lost sexual attraction and he has been looking at other girls. And he hates himself for it, but can’t help it. And I feel stupid for still wanting him, can someone just take my phone away and help me get over him and move on. Our relationship is so toxic and we both disrespect each other. I hate it and I hate myself for wanting it still…
Do the cheater get a second chance
Even after being guilty taking accountability begging for forgiveness and showing all the efforts in the world to keep the love and the partner also the relationship alive. ( the cheating only happened once and with an ex that she kept chasing him over and over)
Do I need to block his email iMessaging me too?
Removed all potential triggers and blocked on all social platforms. I deleted his phone number that I don’t have memorized so I don’t reach out, but he is still able to iMessage me via his email. His email is pretty easy (just his name) so I don’t really see the point in blocking it? I’ve had pretty good self restraint not to respond so far. Is it dumb to not block his email? I do find it comforting to have some sort of line of contact still open in case of an emergency.
Was broken up with.
I was broken up with on 12/05/24. He broke up with me the cruelest way possible. Over text. That day he was upset because I kept asking why he didn’t like me taking pictures of him when we were together he didn’t answer at first. Finally he told me but he said for me to promise him these 3 things. 1. Was to move on from him 2. Forget him. And that the more he was getting further away from me the more he was falling in love. 3. He didn’t want me to go over to his house he didn’t want to see me cry. And to be honest this has been the worst breakup I have ever had. Feel free to comment on this post. Comfort is welcome.
untold. (1 year)
He was supposed to marry me. I supported him from quite literally rags to riches; only for it to never be me in the first place. I only shared resemblance to his real interest; only she was prettier. How do I cope with realizing every moment we shared was only for her? Now we’re over and she’s benefitting from all of the money, style and lessons I taught. I can’t even have a good talking stage, and he’s moved on so quickly. I keep finding out worse and worse information and connections I ignored. “Heal” but this was my first real love, I never had to heal before…I never had a chance? Everyone says skincare and stuff but… it’s deeper than that? How will I ever get over this when I’m living out our entire relationship timeline BY MYSELF (Oct 2023-2024)
nonchalant babydaddy
Okay so I’ve been on and off with my bd for almost 3 years, we have a 1 year old together. He has cheated and possibly have other children due to cheating. He’s such a narcissist! Like I’ve literally left so many times because my stupid self always believes him when he says he’s gonna change and he really wants his family. I’ve left so many times resulting to me going to friends, family, shelters etc and now all my resources I had I no longer have cause I keep going back to him. Like I know I don’t wanna be with him. He’s a imbecile! I’m so angry with myself that this is my sons father. I live with him cause again I have no where to go now, which i know a narcissist LOVES but I’m just really sick of his crap. Anyone can give me advice on not letting his behaviors bother me while I live with him n can hopefully get my own soon.
Help
I am going to make this short and simple. I miss him so much. Ages ago he told me that he just went out with his friends to the park and he saw this girl but he claimed that she was “drunk” and she was trying to hit on one his friend’s but she left afterwards. I didn’t believe him since before we started dating, he used to text other girls whilst we were still texting, but then he did change later on, so I’ll give him that. Later that week when he came to mine, I was getting suspicious as he wasn’t being his usual self, so when he went to help my dad out with some things, I went through his phone. We basically are allowed to go through each others phones and we have each other’s passwords as-well so I was hoping I wouldn’t find anything. I went through the messages of him and his friends just to find out that the girl was hitting on him.I don’t know if he kissed her or not because in one of the texts he said “I should’ve kissed her back” but he was entertaining the conversation and told her his single. That was the end for me since I have high standards and don’t get with anyone that disrespects me even though I got with him? I don’t know what’s going on in my head right now since I have to see him in school everyday as-well and he does talk to me in school but it just hurts so bad because I know he still wants me but I don’t know how to feel.
Need an objective view
Today, I decided to go no contact with my ex fiancé. I seriously thought this guy was my soulmate. I have never felt so emotionally connected with somebody, but the relationship was so toxic towards the end. We were in a long distance relationship, I was in Illinois and he was in Tennessee. We’ve been together for four years and we’re basically engaged and started to plan our wedding for winter next year. when he came to visit me a few weeks ago, I found proof that he had downloaded dating apps at some point and paid for premium. He did not have any messages in these apps and said that he would just download it and delete as soon as he downloaded them because he felt so guilty. He would download it after big fights. He stated that he felt he used the likes from these apps for validation because he never felt appreciated.i have anger issues in the relationship, and we used to fight about things like him not giving me enough time or attention, him calling or smoking when he had a health condition, etc. he’d never complain about me and later said he felt he never had the space to. I miss him a lot, so much. Idk if what I decided to do was the right thing.
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