Even after being guilty taking accountability begging for forgiveness and showing all the efforts in the world to keep the love and the partner also the relationship alive. ( the cheating only happened once and with an ex that she kept chasing him over and over)
I think usually when cheaters get second chances it doesn’t go well. If someone cheats once they are 300x more likely to cheat again. It takes serious commitment and action on their end to make it up to their partner and reassure them. It also takes a lot of introspection and internal work to heal the inner unhappiness that causes a person to cheat. This is work a lot of cheaters aren’t willing to actually put in. Look at what this person is actually doing. Are their words lining up with their actions? What is actually acceptable in a relationship to you? Can you actually forgive cheating? Do they feel entitled to your forgiveness or annoyed by your pain? I broke up with a cheater and it was soooo confusing at the time. But now I feel much happier because I don’t have the stress of possibly being cheated on again. But it’s very dark and confusing when you’re in it. What are you willing to put up with?
I highly recommend Leave a Cheater gain a life or chump lady’s blog.
You may also need space to think away from their manipulations if they are constantly convincing you to stay with them. You need to get back to your own thoughts and opinions. Taking time away from my ex helped me a lot.
Depends if you think you can ever get over the betrayal / want to build a life with someone on a foundation like that
I think you need to have some clear boundaries and reasonable expectations of what you need to heal from this and get back together i.e. share location, no contact with this ex, etc. If he’s willing to meet those expectations and you can see a future with him still, it is worth a shot.
Post anonymously from the app. Your words might help someone who's going through the same thing.
Open Breakup Buddy →