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Mentally tired
me and my ex broke up like two weeks ago and i’m so lost i don’t know who to trust of talk to.
Grieving
I got broken up with September 4th 2025. I was in a relationship (my first one) for almost 2 years. I have come to realize a few things. For one even though he broke up with me (and later tried to gaslight me saying it was my perspective on how the conversation went. Or that it never happened or it was ‘mutual’) in some ways I see how I contributed to the break up and some of the things I said were things I’d never thought I would say to another person. But I know how he treated me was completely unacceptable and I deserved a kind man who cared. He doesn’t have the emotional capacity to care about me in “hard” situations. I’ve been experiencing grief for a long time now due to trauma I went through back in August 2025 (he abandoned me.. in a time it should’ve been both of us he left.) . He just showed me how weak and cowardly he is. While I had to deal with the emotional labor and trauma. It’s awful. I know how you treated me was bad. I know how the situation went showed his true colors and yet I still miss him. My heart aches. My soul hurts and it feels like every day I’m more alone, but I know I shouldn’t be treated like that and I just wish it never happened, but he wasn’t a good person to me in the end. I miss him and I’m grieving not only him but the love that I had because I loved him so much. I think I still love him, but it’s definitely not the same and I think that’s really hard to accept because I loved him so much he was my first And I don’t know how to face him telling him. I don’t love him the same way anymore because that just seems cruel to do to another human however he did things to me. I would’ve never done to him and I think that shows who’s better because I don’t want to hurt someone and I don’t think he wanted to hurt me but I just think he didn’t understand Anything
7 years gone
I don’t exactly know what to say here, but I just needed to tell the void how bad it feels to lose a 7 year constant in your life. Hope anyone else who is struggling can breathe a little better tomorrow.
He hurt me in ways I never knew
He begged me at the beginning of our relationship to be with her and I was at my lowest said all the right things made me feel so loved and desired. And then started acting different when I started asking questions and then we would just disappear for days not answering any calls then would say I was hiding something from him about him from before we were ever together and I couldn't understand. It just got worse in person she would shut down no talking then on the phone say so many untrue things about me hurtful too n I tired to convince him for years I'm not what he claimin.and the last thing was he found someone better then me and hasn't called me since. Even through 5he night before he said that he was hold me n being nice
we broke up today
me and my bf broke up today and i can’t contain my emotions, it is killing me
He hurt me
I don’t know what to do so he broke up with me on oktober 8 And that day hunts me every day In the relationship he abused me and cheated on me. And I still love him but my parents my friends say I deserve better but I want him to be better for me but I don’t know.
In a unfamiliar space
So at the beginning of October my ex broke up with me but it wasn’t because anyone did anything wrong. It was from a place of self awareness. He had some things he had to figure about himself which ultimately mean he couldn’t give his all in the relationship. During the breakup I figured there was things I need to work on myself. It’s been hard because it all seemed sudden to me. It’s been weird cause we have seen each other twice since the breakup but it started to hurt. Seeing him made me feel like nothing ever happened but when he left I felt the loneliness and started to yearn for what we had. My routine was wrapped up so much into him that when he left I felt the loneliest I’ve ever been in my life. We decided to take a break for some time. It’s been hard because I just want him to know I still love him and care for him but I know I have to focus on my healing.
help me someone
I'm with my boyfriend for almost a year now. And first, like, months ago, he cheated on me with his ex. And now, I found out he was texting some other girl yesterday. And also, we had so many arguments, and it's just too much to say, but he's not treating me how I want to. And I texted him a very long message now, and saying how I feel, and please, for him to change. I don't know how he will respond, but I have bpd ,so everything I feel so much, and he doesn't understand this. For him, everything is nothing but for me. Everything is so much, I feel it so much. I wish he could be in my body and just feel how I feel. Even for one day, it's so hard for me to be normal and calm all the time when he's treating me like this. I know in the relationship, only at first, it's so perfect and everything, no arguments, but I want it all the time. He's now treating me like I'm his friend and not girlfriend. He calls me names even for fun, and just no respect sometimes. And at the start, you know, he was all sweet. I want this sweetness back, and I don't want for him to be mean or treat me like a friend. I want him to send those paragraphs and just feel that he cares and he loves me so much. I send him now the message, if he will dismiss this and say something like i’m wrong ,or you know what I mean. I'm gonna broke up, but if he will change, I'm gonna stay. I hope he will change, because I really need him. Like, I have bpd ,so it's really hard for me to leave someone. I'm so attached, I know what to do, and my bpd ,is not even helping me.
My husband abandoned me on our wedding anniversary
My husband just up and left. It’s been 83 days. He has completely ghosted me and changed his phone number. I’m just in disbelief how someone can do this to their wife. I’ve been hospitalized over my depression from all this and I’m in intensive therapy. But I can’t get over the abandonment. I am struggling to function everyday. There were no signs he was going to leave, no fights. He just up and left. His stuff was gone when I got home from work, no note or anything. But I found an unopened anniversary card he got for me sitting on a shelf.
Idk what to do
I (female ) met this girl at a party i went with my friend and my cousin, said girl was with a bunch of her friends. My cousin knew all of the girls including the girl, they started talking i just watched from a distance after the party we headed back to our town which was only about 30 minutes away and they came along, when we arrived back in town we headed to another party. Said girl was already very intoxicated and when we sat on the couch she asked to rest her head on my shoulder i said of course and she did so later in the night she moved into the kitchen with everyone else she sat next to my cousin ( female ) they got told they looked cute together and ended up making out i just moved into another room and i ended up driving said girl and her best friend home that night and the night ended, i thought i’d never see said girl again but she added me on snap chat. ( i met said girl in april ), in the middle of may we were already just snapping eachother and i told her how i felt and she felt the same so we started talking we talked for a while and everything was perfect. On July 8th i asked her to be my girlfriend, she said yes and we started being official, we became inseparable. Until one night when i was spending the night at her house and she fell asleep i suddenly got a gut feeling to look at her phone and i found multiple messages between her and her exs who i was already worried about multiple times before. The morning after i found everything we talked about it and she said she was sorry and so i just left it at that but it lingered in my head. August 28th 2025 i ended up breaking up with her because i felt like i was already mentally exhausted from what was going on inside and outside of the relationship. When we broke up i told her i wanted to stay friends she said that was fine, 5 days after the break up she asked to talk in person so she came over we talked for hours, we talked, we cried, we even laughed and then she said she had to go so i walked her to her moms car and gave her a hug the hug lasted at least 5 minutes it was the longest and tightest hug we gave eachother and when she got in the car i gave her a kiss on the forehead we said we’d wait and fix it. Not to long after i found out her and one of the exs that was texting her were talking and i told her not to speak to me anymore out of anger about finding out this was happening not meaning it, we unadded each other off of all social, shortly after she started dating this ex girlfriend, it broke me inside fully. the other day i seen her for the first time since the last talk and we kept looking at each other and even tho we said no actual words it felt like we said everything with our eyes. October 28th we have now been broken up for 2 months and no matter how much i try to force myself to stop thinking about her and move on i can’t because when i try i catch myself comparing everyone to her. My chest feels like someone is physically being beaten in while i am without her. i can’t seem to let her go and i don’t know what i should do because being without her feels like someone has taken my breath away and i’m im just suffocating, i cant catch my breath because she was my oxygen if that makes sense. What do i do?
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