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Thought he was the love of my life
1 year 2 months down the drain I guess… will time heal? My best friend, he was my everything and the best boyfriend. Loving, caring, consistent, respectful, generous, everything. Until one day I kept bringing up for a few days about the future and how it’s unstable financially and not fair to me… due to family pressure and he said your right it’s not fair to you maybe it’s best for us to not be together and he was crying to me. I didn’t want this… I tried to reassure him for a bit but nothing he didn’t think he could make me happy and that he doesn’t want to loose me but still didn’t choose the relationship. Now I just said I wished him the best. It’s been a week now
Male Best Friend Breakup
From the beginning, me and him became really close through this whole “bestie” thing like genuinely close. We talked a lot, had routines, inside jokes, emotional comfort, checking on each other e.t.c At some point he confessed feelings for me but I told him I wanted staying friends, we still stayed close after and the friendship continued normally. The issue started sometime in April, when he randomly became colder and more withdrawn. At the time when I brought it up, he said it was family-related and eventually the warmth came back, so I moved on from it. Fast forward to now, last week we were literally fine, then suddenly this week the energy changed again. Shorter replies, less warmth, less reciprocity, barely texting me first, not asking much about me anymore, conversations feeling surface-level and emotionally flat compared to before. What hurt me most is not even the texting itself, it’s the inconsistency. It started making me feel emotionally unsafe in the friendship because I never knew what version of him I was getting. So today I finally asked him calmly if everything was okay because I genuinely felt something was off. He said he’s just been really busy lately, reassured me that everything’s okay and apologized. But the conversations still feel flatter/shorter than before. I want to know if anything is up so I can adjust to the new boundaries; someone new. I value our friendship so this hurts
any advice ?
i’ve been with this guy for a year and i thought everything was great even though there were some red flags i was genuinely happy but then this girl reached out to me that he had been liking her pictures secretly and i kept finding out more and more about him lying and i was still talking to him but kept my distance to find out he lied about going to a strip club he’s such a bad person but i felt attached in a way but i seriously need to let go and move on but im really upset where its really starting to affect me even though it seems like he doesn’t even care any advice for moving on ?
Bf broke up with me over call.
My boyfriend of almost 8 months dumped me three days ago. We met in college, our freshman year, and the day I headed home for summer break he called me and said he didn’t want a relationship anymore. Prior to breaking up he told me he was going to visit for my birthday. He was supposed to be here today. He promised me he would be there. He also acted completely normal prior to the breakup. He has tried ending the relationship before, the last time he texted me over winter break. He didn’t even call me that time, sent a text at 1 in the morning hoping I wouldn’t see it until the morning after. After this most recent breakup we called and talked. He didn’t want a relationship this summer. We were arguing, not any more than a usual relationship imo but enough where he felt it wouldn’t work. He said maybe after the summer, and once school starts we could maybe get back together. I’m heartbroken and miss him so much. Idk what to do. We’re no contact right now, for about a month, before talking about what we want and if we wanna try again. He continued to share his location, didn’t have me blocked, and has pictures of us up on insta still. What’s are the odds we get back together? Yk they say they always come back, I want him back.
I got left
I’ve been with the father of my kid since I was 16 now 19 2022 recently before my kid was born in 2024 he went to jail we were okay but I found out he’s been talking to another girl a day ago I confronted him about it and he basically took her side and gave her his social media accounts the girl told me she will do anything to keep him and be with him she has a kid too now I’m heartbroken just because of the principle of him crossing her and her kid over his own family and feel humiliated by this girl and never want to hear about him ever again then again we have a kid together I don’t know what to do but he’s already blocked
What do I do?
So I had been seeing this guy for three months but it progressed really fast. We had met each other’s families and friends, we were exclusive and things were going great. At the end of Dec he lost his job and then worked hard to find a new one. He is a therapist so his goal was to keep his clients and make sure he was able to find a new job quickly so they would have to go without help. Even though he found a new job and kept his clients things felt a little bit off towards the end of Jan and he broke up with me in the first part of Feb. he said it was because he was struggling to even care for himself (eat, sleep, etc. ) and didn’t have the eagerly to put into a relationship. He said he needed to handle this on his own, but I don’t know how to let go of the amazing connection we had. I just feel like our story is t supposed to be over yet, what do I do?
Can someone tell me what this means
He keeps blocking me and unblocking me like repeatedly on TikTok stayed unblocked on fb for 2 days and been blocked on instagram since we broke up
update about the post below
i kept ignoring him and after 3 weeks of him trying to reach out and being ignored he called me. In the call he was asking how i was doing and begged me to be his friend, he even said that he wanted to came over under my house without me knowing. At the end he told me to move on and compared me to his new girlfriend. Then why he called me? really i can’t understand that. i told him to never reach out again and that he’s nothing for me now. I hope i did the right thing… do you think he will reach out again now? tbh i hope that he comes back and ask for a relationship
Broken up after 8 years.
Partner just split up with me after 8 long years. I feel so heartbroken and lost. I am struggling to eat, sleep or even think straight. I cannot focus on anything and struggle to stop myself looking at previous messages when we were okay. It was so sudden and I actually haven’t been given a reason why apart from the fact she just wanted to live back with her mother. A small part of me believes the mother has had a slight hand to play in this as we haven’t always seen eye to eye and I am worried my partner feels like she is trapped or cannot say anything to her mother. I don’t know if that is just me trying to make myself feel better but I cannot think straight right now. We had so many good times a lot more than bad and only 2 weeks ago we were talking about engagement. The reason it hasn’t happened before now is purely financial. We were also discussing children 2 weeks ago so it seems strange to me that this has happened now. I don’t know what to expect from here but I don’t have anyone else to talk or vent too.
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we broke up like nearly 2 weeks ago now.. i messaged him on the 15th checking up on him and he aired the message then i had to message again to see about this concert i booked for us to go to has a birthday present for him.. he replied but he was quite unemotional then i told him im just going to sell them and then i said i didnt want this to end but i wish you well etc and he said the same thing he didnt want it to end but it was the best for the both of us cause we wasn’t working.. but yet hes the one who walked away! hes still has me added on everything and even has his location on .. he didnt even fight for what we had.. i dont want this to be over for good.. but am i just being silly..
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