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shockingwill1zfa
28d ago
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Bf broke up with me over call.

My boyfriend of almost 8 months dumped me three days ago. We met in college, our freshman year, and the day I headed home for summer break he called me and said he didn’t want a relationship anymore. Prior to breaking up he told me he was going to visit for my birthday. He was supposed to be here today. He promised me he would be there. He also acted completely normal prior to the breakup. He has tried ending the relationship before, the last time he texted me over winter break. He didn’t even call me that time, sent a text at 1 in the morning hoping I wouldn’t see it until the morning after. After this most recent breakup we called and talked. He didn’t want a relationship this summer. We were arguing, not any more than a usual relationship imo but enough where he felt it wouldn’t work. He said maybe after the summer, and once school starts we could maybe get back together. I’m heartbroken and miss him so much. Idk what to do. We’re no contact right now, for about a month, before talking about what we want and if we wanna try again. He continued to share his location, didn’t have me blocked, and has pictures of us up on insta still. What’s are the odds we get back together? Yk they say they always come back, I want him back.

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silentmudpl6wes26d ago

You have to focus on yourself completely, be mysterious. Put your energy on yourself. The only way to attract someone is if your not waiting for them. If it’s been 1 month with no contact maybe send a text but don’t answer for awhile too. Give the same energy. Post cute pics, go out, do your own thing and show him your not waiting for him. You have to make him want you, your the prize don’t forget that. But if I’m being honest games don’t work if you loose control and make sure this guy is the right guy for you and he treats you good otherwise there is someone else trust me, I know from experience. Realize he’s just a regular guy figuring out himself too and if he’s saying he doesn’t want a relationship it’s best if you accept that too because he’s not willing to put the work, but if he is willing to put that work remember he must earn your love

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simplesaltgj0l18d ago

I would recommend not getting back together. I’ve been in a similar boat where he even talked to other girls after dumping me on phone. If he left you once and nothing changed then why go back to him and be hurt again. I think you should block him and never come back because no more. If he hasn’t changed then what makes you think it will change how he treats you or even think about leaving again. You deserve someone’s all and full decision and not some boy still figuring things out. And there are good memories and qualities I’m sure you love about this person. But there are so many other guys who can treat and love you very well. And I would try to take small steps to get over him. Maybe talking to trusted friends whenever memories hit. Or journaling. And stopping talking to him altogether for good to help you heal away from him and figure out if this is something you would actually want or settle for.

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