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It does get easier
Whatever your worst fears are regarding never being able to heal, please please believe me, chemically your brain is wired to heal
His WIFE texted me.
His wife texted me and now I’m in the seven stages of grief all at once. Shock. Denial. Anger. Bargaining. Depression. Testing. Acceptance. He told me they were divorced. He rushed intimacy. He was supposed to be getting his new apartment next month. He told her I was his soulmate. But my soulmate wouldn’t have lied to me. I never even said goodbye. I just blocked him. No point in giving him another chance to lie but now I have no closure.
First love
I like this guy. We’ve been dating for a year and a couple of months. I love him so much, but he cheated on me two times. The first time I forgave him. The second time, I was willing to forgive him, but I can’t. He was my first everything, so it’s hard. He picked the other girl over me, and they were talking for a week while we had been dating for a year. I feel like he likes attention. He lied to me a lot, and I just want to move on, but I can’t. I’m really close to his family. I’m best friends with his older sister. He wants to be friends, but how do I tell him I’m not ready? Every time I say I forgive you, just try for me, he says “I don’t know” or “I don’t know what to say.” He says he doesn’t know how to explain his feelings. I understand, and for a year I tried to help him explain, and he was doing good. Now, out of nowhere, he says he doesn’t know how to anymore.
Narcissistic abuse breakup experience
So I’m healing from this long distance narcissistic abuse relationship breakup with a individual from Morocco who manipulated me, love bombed me, tried to use me for visa purposes, threatening me saying that if I intended to leave, he was gonna hurt himself. He was very possessive, and controlling. He always controlled me where I was at, he isolated me from friends and family, his friend even told me to be careful not to trust in him bc he’s a fraud and manipulator trying to use foreign women and has bunch of several women and when I told him this he gaslighted me and said “how can I trust in a stranger and not him and he said “do not believe in anybody else only me do u understand. And saying “ I love you, no one else. Do u understand. I saw all of his narcissistic signs and he was gaslighting me, making me feel trapped and pressured so I said “no we are done, I will never trust in u ever again, this is not love this is emotional abuse and manipulation and that I felt trapped in this relationship and that I was gonna block him everywhere and the only response he said was “okay. I will never trust in him ever again. He is a narcissist. Love is someone who fights for you and fixes everything not manipulation. That is my lesson I learned.
Just broke up and he wants to be friends
I just had a break up today, it wasn’t bad or terrible, but it still hurt. I knew it was coming but I still wasn’t anywhere near prepared. He still wants to be friends and even mentioned that we can do everything that we’ve done together, just without the label. It sounds like he just wants someone to have, but has no commitment to them. These last few weeks, he’s been distant, not talking as much, etc. We’re long distance, so I know we can get busy, but it was different. I think him just wanting to do all the couple stuff without the label is him wanting to just do whatever he wants and I can’t call him out for not answering for hours on end for it because we’re “not dating” anymore.
Hello
Im so sad
Self-esteem shattered
This is a really phenomenal video that I found about the logical fallacies that harm our self-esteem after a break up
Crazy life
Just marveling at how you think something can be stable and then it’s just ripped away with no notice. Tell people you love them and appreciate them, you never know when they might pass on from your life. Cherish the time.
How do I move on
I have been with my ex bf since 2018. We had a really inconsistent on and off relationship. He cheated on me twice. I guess the first time I returned was because I really thought he had changed. He then went on to marry someone else. My heart was really broken. His marriage did not last long and he got divorced. During the divorce proceedings he came back to me asking for forgiveness. I said no even though I loved him. In one week time I saw him with someone else. I mean it really broke my heart how people use you for their benefit
I miss him!
It’s been 80 days of our breakup and i guess 3 days of non speaking. We decided to not be in contact but we kept on breaking it. I don’t want to break it this time around but i miss him so much 😭. He broke things with me after he found out i had a one night stand( had oral sex with someone). He healed while i thought we’re fixing things and in the end he broke things when i thought we’re doing okay! He moved on and i wish he’s been treated better there but i want him, i need him, he’s the only thing i think about 😭. My soul yearns for him, i regret my actions so much. I ruined a good things going, we could be doing much better now. I know i’m in no position to be crying as it’s my own actions that got us here, but i need him to forgive and come back. Even if things don’t go well in the beginning , i’m willing to start over gaining his trust and love. I have learned my lesson.
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