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enragedfishingaq2ki
20mo ago
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Broke no contact

I contacted him last night after breaking up with him a week ago. I feel like he was my person and I was his, but my personal insecurities were hitting me really hard and I felt like it was not fair on him. Best for both of us to end it soon so I dont hurt him more, and now I can heal my mental health, which was declining rapidly these past few months (which has never happened before so it scared me). I told him that it was best not to see each other for a while, and he understood perfectly like always, because he is a great guy. The only thing thats messing me up is that he told me he felt like we could have fought for each other a little longer. I dont know if thats true, because i feel like i have tried to get better for him and that just made it worse. Now I feel like i have given up on him too soon and i feel so guilty, even though i know I had to make this decision.

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sandyfix85qmphq20mo ago

This sounds really hard. But if you feel like you weren’t able to work on that while in the relationship, maybe taking space was the right move. You could get treatment for mental health now, and see if that changes your outlook on the relationship. Maybe addressing root causes of what is making you feel bad about yourself would help you feel like you can stay in relationships like this in the future. Or maybe repair things eventually with him. A lot of universities and jobs offer free therapy for at least a few sessions. Or there are a lot of books and courses that can help too. You deserve love even if you are struggling with mental health issues. You don’t have to wait until all your problems go away.

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Anonymous20mo ago

This is such great and kind advice

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Anonymous20mo ago

This might not be helpful but, I think taking some time, clearing your mind, making a list of things you liked / didn’t like about the relationship and just trying to get into that objective headspace will be helpful for both of you. Also making that list will help when you’re feeling insecure / sad and you can remember why you left and be more clear minded about if you want to try again

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