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Anon
21mo ago
Vent

Trying to look forward

That hard part for me has been reminding myself that I can find someone else that I can connect with as I have with her. She was so funny, smart, pretty, and kind. She was the whole package. But what has been helping me is telling myself that love exists everywhere and it’s you that makes someone special to you. It’s nice to know that this past relationship, although it didn’t last, stands as a testament to all of our ability to find the good in people. There will always be people for you to care for. It’s also easy to forget the flaws. When I look more closely at our relationship, I can see now that in hindsight, she was amazing but being in her presence and being the center of her attention took away from the very real flaws that she had.

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Anon21mo ago

I wrote this on a good day and we had broken up recently. I’m afraid that tomorrow or even something like an hour later, these reassuring thoughts are not what take lead. I’m scared I might spiral and look her up online or even worse try to contact her

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Anonymous20mo ago

This happened to me too, the spiraling thoughts, what helped me was thinking about why we broke up

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Losttroublesoul252120mo ago

I needed to hear this. I feel the same exact way about My ex. He was magical to me. I can’t imagine ever being with someone more interesting, perfect, attractive…I feel like he is my dream man. But now that you say those words, maybe I just projected that into him. I really do think I may have glorified him. This is a pretty profound post and is helping me very much…. At the moment….. soon I will go back to to complete despair I’m sure. 2.5 months post break up and I’m still just completely broken and empty without him. I hate this. But thank you for that perspective. 🖤

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