Narcissist

I’m sorry you’re going through this. This kind of neglect can make there be even more intense emotions. I’m rooting you on.

I’m really sorry you’re going through this! I didn’t know what narcissistic abuse was until I experienced it for myself, and learned about it in therapy after my breakup a month ago. I found it helpful to watch free YouTube videos by Dr. Ramani and Dr. Phil. They help more than half the time because people with NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) or narcissistic traits (less severe than NPD but the abuse and aftereffects still linger) leave people confused, hurt, and foggy headed. If your ex was a narcissist or had tendencies, I’d definitely recommend looking up “narcissistic supply” so you don’t have to wonder if you’re good enough and it can help remind you that these people are just wired differently. Most cannot change in adulthood even with professional help. Research backed statistics show 1-5% of the population had NPD, and narcissistic traits are way more widespread. I personally believe educating oneself helps to heal from their abuse and will help strengthen your defenses and point them out sooner moving forward. It also helped me to learn what type of narcissist my ex was (or the traits he had). I was with a covert narcissist/type for 2.5 years. I got pulled in with and had buy in (I invested emotionally, sexually, time wise, financially, etc.) after several months of lies. The mind games and manipulation made it hard to leave. Please be kind and gentle with yourself. You’re good enough. Someone that can treat another human being like this (as a pattern, especially towards a mother) is dysfunctional and unhealthy. I know it doesn’t take away the pain of what he put you through (trust me, I know! I still think about how I was wronged from my ex 😡😭)… but I don’t think it’s because you’re not good enough. I think you and your ex are very different people… and luckily, you still have a chance at love. I wish for you that every single one of your wounds heal. ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹