for anyone with an insecure attachment style or codependent tendencies

i HIGHLY recommend journaling- especially shadow work. i did a shadow work meditation last night and came out of it with tears streaming down my face. i have an anxious attachment style and talking to the suppressed, wounded part of myself from both the break-up and my past was such a self-discovery and transformative experience. Here's the book I got the meditation from: The Shadow Work Journal (New, Expanded Edition) For anyone struggling with being left by the person they loved most, i hear you. I promise that the earliest stages are the hardest but it gets better. But you shouldn't need someone, you should WANT them. The only person you truly need is you. If you let yourself shut down for someone who has shown they don't want you anymore, you're abandoning the person you actually need: YOU. I know the statement "they don't want you anymore" is a tough pill to swallow, but imagine what it'll feel like to love the person who always aants you and sees your worth? Amazing. Hold out for you and for them. The people who will stay end up there through your highs, lows, no matter what distance. But you must become the best you and love yourself before loving another. You cannot love another in a healthy way if you do not love yourself in a healthy way.