Betrayal and Breakup

Last week I found out that my ex cheated on me when she was on her exchange semester in the US. I looked on her phone a random evening because I had no battery, I went to her Instagram and I saw that she was texting with this guy. I asked her if she fucked with him and she said yes. I had suspicions because when we met after 4 months she got tested positive to chlamydia. But she was lying until I found out. It broke my heart, everything changed because we just moved together. I was ready to forgive her, because my love is so strong but she never have me the feeling that she would want that. Yesterday, I was looking for answers so I looked into her stuff , and I found a list of guys ( Where I am in), I knew the guys before me but I found out that it was more than one guy, but 8 guys with whom she had done petting and kissing. I was absolutely shocked and I decided that I will go back to Paris (I was living in Munich because she is german). I asked her to meet on monday to say goodbye because after that I will never be able to talk to her. I told her that she will never go anywhere if she continues like that, she cannot say to me that she loved me when she was doing stuff like this to me, while i was working as hell in Munich. All of this is so confusing because she was so honest with me during the last 3 years, but i think temptation pushed her to do such horrible things. I told her "You will never find a guy like me, I have you everything, I was believing that you were the love of my Life, but you ruined it yourself". Now i am scared that I will become such a complicated person in my future relationships. But I guess time wil be the answer…

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AmyJune7mo ago

In a relationship. Once she did that the relationship was over. Because you would never feel secure being with her. It would be nearly impossible for her to prove she would be faithful in the future. So just keep reminding yourself that there is a woman out there with a heart like yours that will handle your heart with the same care that they want their hearts handled with. You will look back and be so thankful she did you the favor of crossing those lines and showing you her true colors. Don’t let her continue to hurt you. She’s done enough damage and it’s time for you to stand up and say, I am done with you! You’ve got this! 🤗

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AmyJune7mo ago

Oh sweetheart. I am so sorry. I guess my only advice is be thankful the relationship didn’t go further. Imagine if you married her. Not to belittle what you are going through because believe me, I understand. But imagine how much harder it would be to move on if the relationship got that complicated. Imagine not happy you are going through this but it is refreshing to see there are still good guys out there. It actually gives me a little hope. It’s really sad but I think people now a days have become so selfish and self absorbed that when a truly good person with a good heart comes along and they see you would do anything for them, they take advantage of it. Heal your wounds my darling. There are women out there that don’t cheat and lie. I’m sorry but those are boundaries you can’t cross

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