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viciouslocationh3
6d ago
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Breaking Up When You Live Together

My two year relationship has just ended, tonight, and we live together. He is not physically abusive, but he lives “loudly” and makes me uncomfortable on purpose. He knows that I will make myself silent and small, and isolate myself if I feel uncomfortable, so he makes sure that’s how I feel by stomping around, slamming doors, singing and whistling loudly to himself. Talking out loud, laughing extra loud. Generally making himself known - and making a lot of mess everywhere he goes, so that the communal areas become unusable for me. How do I cope with having to live with him, and amicably separate our things to pack, while I organise moving out? I feel so uncomfortable and anxious being at home and around the behaviour, that I can’t think clearly to make the bigger decisions. It is a volatile environment- even though I don’t fear that he will physically hurt me. Any help would be much appreciated

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glaringsoftware60nd26d ago

Hey there, so sorry to hear you’re going through this!! Your story rings very true to me because I’m very sound and force sensitive. Kind of a different situation but when my roomate who is a narcissist alcoholic get yelly / angry I have found a solution of putting on my bose headphones which have really good noise cancelling and I put on some calming tones, sounds a little weird but VERY helpful. Also I try to stay out at coffee shops / work cafes for as much of the time of our overlapping schedules as I can!

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